Heads: (The "normal" wedding ceremony)
(13/07/2016) | Categories:
Wedding Ceremony |
face it. Most wedding ceremonies are pretty ordinary,
and far too many are something that your guests have to
suffer through before they get to what they see as
the good stuff - the party.
Partly that is because, as a guest at a wedding I
conducted a couple of days ago said, most celebrants all
seem to read from the same script (a comment made when
he was observing that he'd never attended a wedding
ceremony like it) and partly because they are all about
words. Bride, Groom, and Celebrant as Talking Heads...
A good ceremony is a perfect mix of laughter and tears,
of serious words and light-hearted expressions, of words
to listen to, actions to look at, symbolism to
internalise, and interaction between guests and the
couple, as well as between guests and the celebrant.
You can't achieve that if you're relying of the
personality of the celebrant as the centre of attention.
This is why I step away from the traditional position (a
precedent set by clergy), ensure that the couple faces
the guests for most of the ceremony, and strive to make
sure that there are many more visual elements to the
ceremony than the rings, the kiss, and the celebrant's