| Wedding Ceremony |
It is your choice of a primary theme
that makes your wedding a Theme Wedding. Your
primary theme sets the tone for your whole wedding.
What makes a theme wedding different from your
standard wedding is that it involves the
guests throughout - from when you send out your
Save-the-Dates to and through the actual day. Theme
weddings also deliver loads of other benefits which
might not be immediately apparent when you make the
While wedding stylists talk about themes in terms of
style - formal, rustic, boho, vintage etc - and/or
colour, these do not impact in any meaningful way on
the content of the ceremony. They are
secondary themes. Important for how your ceremony
and reception spaces look. Great for photo details.
Minimal impact on how your ceremony feels.
A Theme Wedding ticks all the boxes.
Theme Weddings are fun
Theme weddings integrate the ceremony and the
celebration to get the party vibes ramped up from
the outset. Everyone loves a good dress-up party.
(PS that's me, channeling Minerva McGonagall while
officiating a cosplay wedding). Photo by Edge
Theme Weddings simplify
When people talk about how overwhelming planning a
wedding can be, what they are acknowledging is that
the amount of choice, and how many choices you have
to make, is astonishing, and it seems that, as the
wedding industry expands and thinks of new things to
add, the options are infinite. Of course it is
overwhelming. By choosing, at the outset, to go with
a theme immediately gives you a road map, a
direction, limiting (in a good way) your options and
therefore simplifying the process. You don't need to
consider anything that doesn't fit with the theme.
And that means everything. What you wear, where you
have the ceremony and reception, styling, even to
some extent your ceremony content.
Theme Weddings open up
options for the unconventional
There are plenty of places to hold a more
conventional wedding. Dedicated wedding venues,
commercial or public spaces that specifically offer
premises for weddings, restaurants that will happily
host a wedding, private homes or backyards are all
out there. But finding the right one, and one that
is both available and compatible with your vision of
your wedding, can be quite difficult. On the other
hand, if you do some out-of-the-box thinking, you
may find somewhere that is not a conventional
wedding venue, but is a perfect background for your
This is what you need to consider before making your
- On site help and guidance
If a venue is not in the business of hosting
weddings there may be little or not expert help
available on site. This can be a positive
(no-one trying to "guide" you into choosing
their preferred way to run a wedding) or a
negative (you're on your own and may have to
deal with people who find it difficult to
understand your needs).
- Parking and accessibility
No matter how perfectly the space fits your
theme, if it is difficult to access, and parking
is limited or non-existent, it is not going to
be a good choice
- Power, water, and amenities
No power for the ceremony shouldn't be a problem
given the fact that I, and most celebrants, have
battery operated PA systems. No power, water,
kitchen facilities, or toilets are a whole other
issue. It is costly to hire and bring in
generators, portable kitchens, and portaloos.
What will you need to enhance your theme? Will
you be allowed to decorate in this way? Will you
need to bring in the basics - chairs, tables,
etc. How much will that cost?
- Setup and Cleanup
When can you get access to set up. When does the
cleanup need to be done by? What about garbage
- Legal issues
Is is legally possible for a ceremony and/or
reception to take place in this space? While
there are fewer legal issues surrounding a
ceremony but once you start talking about food
and alcohol it can be a different story.
- Bylaws and Regulations
Is there a curfew? Noise regulations?
Do you need a special permit for the
ceremony/reception to be held in this space?
What insurance will you, or your vendors, need?
Do existing policies cover this space?
A Theme Wedding expresses
Theme weddings are usually inspired by a story, a
book, TV series, movie, even a historical era. One
of the biggest, though rarely articulated, benefits
of a Theme Wedding is that guests are usually
familiar with the story, and therefore with the
values that underpin it. For example, one of the
most popular themes at the moment is Star Wars
at heart, a struggle to overcome forces of fascism.
another popular theme, expresses
humanist values of equality and respect through and
through. Harry Potter
such as friendship, doing good for others, making
unselfish choices. Various fairy tales,
Disney-themed or otherwise, all end with "and
they lived happily ever after
", itself an
expression of hope and commitment. Dig a little
deeper and you find values galore, kindness in
When your ceremony is built around your theme,
readings and quotes all derive from the source. What
you choose for those will further highlight your
values, and your expectations for your marriage.
A Theme Wedding can be
Two words. Costume hire! Compared with the
cost of buying wedding-specific clothing, you can
save a bundle.