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Handfasting vs Handtying vs Tying the Knot

Categories: |    Wedding Ceremony   |   Wedding Rituals  |
Is there a difference between Handfasting and Handtying? I believe there is. But it is not what you think it is!. ...  More

Old School Things That Make Wedding Ceremonies Wonderful - and a Few that Don't

Categories: |    Wedding Ceremony   |   Wedding Planning   |
In all the rush to be modern and contemporary, I think we often downplay the old school things that make wedding ceremonies wonderful. In fact, many wedding professionals act as if nothing old school happens during the wedding ceremonies they are involved with. But just because they
are not acknowledged, doesn't mean they aren't there! Here is my list of all the (largely unacknowledged) things that have made weddings special forever, and continue to do so. ...  More

26 Good Reasons to Schedule a Wedding Rehearsal

Categories: |    Wedding Ceremony   |   Wedding Planning   |
While the practical reasons for having a rehearsal are well known,other equally important reasons
are rarely discussed, so in this blog post I discuss the practical reasons together with the emotional and relationship-strengthening reasons and outline what a rehearsal should achieve and what happens at one ...  More

Read Your Vows Like a Pro

Categories: |   Vows   |    Wedding Ceremony  |
On your wedding day you can repeat your vows after your celebrant, or you can read them. Or you can do both! In Australia, each of you must speak a specific contractual statement. It is this statement that creates your marriage. If you choose to read this statement (perfectly legal to do so) and/or your personal promises, there are several things you can do to make sure that you read with confidence ...  More

How to Rock Rose Petals in Your Wedding Ceremony

Categories: Wedding Ceremony  |   Wedding Traditions   | 
There are many ways to include rose petals in your wedding ceremony that will both surprise and delight your guests because they won't have experienced them before ...  More

Traditions and Your Wedding: Tweak Old Ones and Make New Ones!

Categories: Wedding Ceremony  |   Wedding Traditions   | 
All traditions were invented by someone for some reason that was good, socially acceptable, or in line with a social norm at the time. So it follows that traditions can be comforting. but they can also be a burden if they've outlived their usefulness or express values that are at odds with your own. In the 21st century, there are good reasons to reexamine traditions that are nearly 200 years old, and tweak them or make new ones ...  More

21 Good Reasons to Have a Celebrant Wedding

Categories: Celebrant   |  Wedding Ceremony  | 
A celebrant-led wedding gives you so much more flexibility and choice than marrying in either a religious ceremony or a registry office ceremony while not restricting the content of your ceremony .....  More

8 Legit Ways to Use Smart Phones in your Wedding

Categories: Wedding Ceremony  | 
Smart phones are a largely ignored and definitely under-exploited resource in wedding ceremonies ....  More

Weddings and Weaponry in Queensland

Categories: Wedding Ceremony  |  Wedding Legals  |
Carrying a knife (sgian dubh) is part of the traditional male Scottish Highland Dress. But in many
places, including Queensland, carrying a knife in a public place can land you in trouble with the law. Read on to find out about the rules and what you can do to get round them ....  More

The Six Stages of Ceremony Development

Categories: Wedding Ceremony  | 
A personal and authentic bespoke ceremony doesn't just happen. By following my unique six steps of ceremony development we will make your vision for your ceremony a reality ...  More

How to Hold Your Wedding Bouquet

Categories: Wedding Ceremony  |  Wedding Dresses   |
How you carry your bouquet can make a world of difference to your photos, and to how much your guests see of your beautiful dress and, potentially, your face ...  More

Legal Name Change or Change of Name by Marriage - the Facts and the Pitfalls

Categories: | Wedding Legals |
Changing your name after you are married. You don't have to do it. But if you decide to change your name you have the choice of doing it *by marriage* or through a *legal change of name* so how do you choose? ...  More

Dot Point your Vows for Ease and Effect

Categories: |   Vows   |    Wedding Ceremony |
Succinct vows can be very effective. And you can't get more succinct than dot points. If you are planning to read your vows, dot pointing them will make them easy to read and so much easier to write! ...  More

12 Essential Post-Wedding Tasks

Categories: | Wedding Budget   |    Wedding Planning  |
Here are a dozen things that you really must do after your wedding ...  More

Wedding Dilemmas: Save the Date, Change the Date, Trim the Guest List

Categories: Wedding Planning  |
The new normal about Save the Dates is to be confused and concerned. What if your plans are sent awry (or completely scuppered) by another last-minute lockdown, border closure, or government imposed limitation on where you can have the ceremony and/or reception, and on how many people can be there? ...  More

14 Ways to Include Lucky White Heather in your Wedding

Categories: Wedding Ceremony  |  Wedding Planning  |
White heather, a Scottish tradition that has spread far and wide, is considered lucky in weddings. While it is traditional to include a sprig in a bride's bouquet, there are many other ways to incorporate it in your wedding ...  More

Could a Tandem Wedding be Your Thing?

Categories: Wedding Ceremony  |  Wedding Legals   |  Wedding Planning  |
A tandem wedding ceremony is one that is officiated by two people, working in concert, but only one of whom is authorised to solemnise legal marriages ...   More...

What Does The Marriage Act Do?

Categories: Wedding Ceremony  |  Wedding Legals   |
The Marriage Act applies to all marriages solemnised in Australia. It lays down the framework, creates offences, and deals with the recognition of foreign marriages ...   More...

Why Border-Straddling Weddings Are a No-No

Categories: Wedding Ceremony  |  Wedding Legals   |
Marriages in Australia must be registered in the state or territory in which they take place...  More...

Getting Married When You Have a Disability

Categories: Inclusive Weddings   |  Wedding Legals   |
There is no disability or disease that will prevent you getting married in Australia...  More ...

7 Things your Celebrant does NOT need to know ... and 3 things they have to be sure about

Categories: Wedding Legals   |
There are certain things that the Marriage Act requires that your celebrant must know in order to make sure your marriage will be lawful. There are also things that they don't need to know... More,,, 

Everyone Present at Your Wedding is a Guest

Categories: Wedding Ceremony   |  Wedding Planning   |
Everyone present at your wedding is a guest, including the two of you! This is something to take to heart. It's not just about being kind and considerate, it is also about social media use. . ... More ...

Vows, Personal Promises, and what goes first

Categories: Vows    |  Wedding Ceremony   |
Out in celebrant land there are differing opinions about whether your personal promises must follow the legal vows, or whether they can be said before you make your legal vows. Here's why I believe that personal promises can be made anywhere in the ceremony - or not at all, if you so choose. ... More ...

Can you all hear me?

Categories: Wedding Ceremony   |   Wedding Planning   |
How successful your wedding ceremony is depends very largely on your guests being able to hear every word. That can mean your celebrant needs to use a PA system. However, the choices you make early in your planning, and the unexpected challenges your chosen venue throws up, can have an immense impact on how well your guests will be able to hear the ceremony. ... More ...

The "Worst Days for Weddings" might be the Best Day for Yours

Categories: |   Wedding Planning   |
In this blog post I revisit the usual suspects on worst days lists, unpack why they are on those lists, and discuss whether ignoring the warnings and going for one of those days might actually be the smart choice for your wedding. ... More ...

Should you Invite your Celebrant to your Reception?

Categories: |   Wedding Planning   |
Whether or not you should/must invite the person who officiates your wedding ceremony to your reception is a question that no longer has a clear, one-size-fits-all, answer. There are a number of things that come into play, not the least being what type of wedding ceremony you are having ... More ...

Declutter your Vows: 3 Vows are Better than One!

Categories: |   Vows  |   Wedding Ceremony  |
There is a simple solution to the struggle to write your personal vows. Instead of trying to fit it
all into one vow, write three vows. And there is a rational reason why this is a great idea ... More ...

Wedding Ceremony Anxiety and How to Deal with it

Categories: |   Wedding Ceremony   |   Wedding Planning   |
It is the very rare bride or groom who doesn't develop some level of wedding ceremony anxiety in the lead up to their wedding. It's common, but, by understanding what it is and why you might be feeling that way can go a long way to damping it down. ... More ...

What if you change your mind? Annulment or Divorce in Australia

Categories: Wedding Legals |
In Australia there are very limited circumstances in which you can get a marriage annulled. Buyer's Remorse (change of mind) isn't one of them. ... More ...

Pimp up your wedding ceremony program to the max

Categories: Wedding Ceremony Wedding Planning  |
Wedding programs have fallen out of favour. They are no longer a must-have. However, done well, your wedding program can serve as a guide to your ceremony, an introduction that adds to the anticipation and excitement ... More ...

Yes! You CAN have a gender-neutral, stereotype-free, wedding ceremony 

Categories: Inclusive Wedding   |    Wedding Ceremony  |
The Marriage Act permits couples to have a totally gender-neutral marriage ceremony. Regardless of how much pressure others may apply to try to make you confirm to gender stereotypes, you are legally entitled to ignore them. ... More ...

Including Your Brothers and Best Mates in Your Wedding Ceremony

Categories: Inclusive Wedding   |    Wedding Ceremony  |
There are so many ways to include all of your best mates and brothers in your ceremony, even if you want to keep your wedding party small ... More ...

Unplugged Wedding: Pros, Cons, and Alternatives

Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
Having an unplugged wedding has benefits, but it also has drawbacks. A compromise position might be the best strategy.. ... More ...

How to Deal with Unsolicited Wedding Advice

Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
Unsolicited wedding advice from well-meaning friends and loved ones can feel like criticism and be stressful. In this blog post I discuss how to deal with it. ... More ...

Warming of the Rings - a Powerfully Inclusive Ritual

Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
In the Warming of the Rings ritual your wedding rings are infused with love, energy, strength,
and commitment by friends and loved ones as an expression of their support and good wishes for your marriage. In this blog post I discuss the charm and the challenges of this ritual, one of my favourites, particularly since COVID ... More ...

False Origin Claims about Three Wedding Rituals

Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
There is no need to attribute invented traditions to long ago and far away to give them authority. Misattribution is both disrespectful and unnecessary. These ceremony enhancements are enough, as they are. They can stand alone. ... More ...

Pairing up your Wedding Party: Who Walks with Who?

Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Traditions |
How do you pair up your wedding party when you've tossed the idea of a a strict division along
gender lines and your I Do Crew  is made up of your besties with no regard for equal numbers or matchy matchy on gender. ... More ...

How to Avoid Ugly Crying During Your Wedding

Categories: Vows | Wedding Ceremony |
Are you nervous about ugly crying during the most emotional parts of the day (the ceremony and the speeches)? There are tried and true ways to make sure you feel the emotions but avoid the ugly part of the crying ... More ...

8 Ways to Choose Your Wedding Date

Categories: Wedding Planning |
While some people have no problem picking a date - usually an anniversary that just happily falls on the weekend - for most couples choosing a date that everyone will be happy with turns into a nightmarish juggling act. On top of that, 2020 sure gave us all a heads-up about all the pitfalls of getting your hearts set on a particular date for your wedding. More ...

Jennifer Cram, The Inclusive Celebrant: My Commitment to Diversity and Inclusion

Categories: |  Celebrant | Inclusive Weddings |
As a secular humanist whose calling, commitment, and passion is creating and performing fun, relaxed, inclusive ceremonies, I believe with my whole heart that all people are worthy and should be equally valued and treated with equal respect. Neither diversity nor inclusion is optional ...  More ...

Plan X - The 2021 Wedding Must Have

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
Plan X is the plan you have ready to guide you when your wedding, as planned, can't go ahead on the day because of restrictions imposed in response to COVID-19 outbreaks ... More ...

5 Good Reasons to Propose Before you Shop for an Engagement Ring

Categories: | Wedding Traditions |
Proposing with a ring is a very new tradition, and like all traditions, not law. Waiting to choose the ring as a couple has lot going for it. ... More ...

Fund your Wedding and Include your Loved Ones with a Wedding Registry

Categories: | Wedding Budget  |  Wedding Ceremony  Wedding Planning |
Rethinking what you might put on your wedding registry list and/or substituting a Wedding Wish List for a Wishing Well can be great solutions to two of the big dilemmas 2020 has created for couples planning to marry   More ...

Ramp Up the Fun with Wildlife at your Wedding

Categories: | Animals and Weddings  |  Wedding Ceremony  Wedding Planning |
An emerging trend is that couples are thinking beyond their own fur kids and exploring the idea of adding a wildlife element to their wedding. It is also a growing area in wedding-related businesses, so you are spoiled for choice. However, to successfully include wildlife in your wedding requires some thought and preparation   More ...

Strategic Wedding Planning for 2021

Categories: | Wedding Planning |
With so many weddings rescheduled from 2020 to 2021 because of COVID-19, if you've just got engaged and hoping to be married in 2021, whether you can pull off the wedding you want, within the time frame you want, will depend on how flexible you are prepared to be. You're going to need to be very strategic about your wedding planning, or very lucky!   More ...

Celebrate Your Grandmas in Your Wedding Ceremony

Categories: | Inclusive Weddings | Wedding Ceremony |
There are so many ways to include your grandmothers in your ceremony.  More ...

No Wedding Ceremony Is Boring ... However ...

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
Weddings and wedding ceremonies have acquired the reputation of being boring even though no wedding is boring if you've never been to a wedding before. The problem isn't that weddings are boring, but that they are predictable, which is both comforting and boring. And that's the challenge.  More ...

White Weddings are uh, White

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
The traditional white wedding, still seen as the norm in Australia, is culturally white, through and through  More ...

Valentine's Day - Pros and Cons of Getting Married on the Official Day of Love

Categories: | Wedding Planning |
Would Valentine's Day, the Official Day of Love, be a great day to marry, or should you avoid it? There are pros and cons to weddings on that day.  More ...

Let's hear it for Negatives First Wedding Planning

Categories: | Wedding Planning |
Kickstart your wedding planning, and ensure you don't blow your budget down the track, by starting with some negative thinking.  More ...

Like First Impressions, the First Line of Your Wedding Ceremony Matters

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
The first line of your wedding ceremony can be captivating and intriguing. It can make your
guests lean forward, eager to participate. It does not have to be boring. Unfortunately, it often is... More ...

Your Easy-As Guide to Organising a Naming Ceremony

Categories: | Naming Ceremonies |
Like any celebration, working your way through a series of questions will help focus your minds on what you want for and from your child's naming ceremony, and will also point you to what you need to do to make sure that you pull off an experience that your friends and loved ones will talk about for years. ... More ...

Your Wedding Vows: Legal, Personal, Private? What's the Difference?

(12/09/2020) Categories: | Vows | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
What's the difference between legal vows and personal vows (personal promises) and can you keep them private?... More ...

12 Wedding "Rules" to Kick to the Curb for a Modern Marriage

(04/09/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Traditions |
Your wedding is a personal occasion, but a personal occasion that lays a critical foundation
for your future together. There are no rules, other than minimal legal requirements. But there are plenty of tyrannical traditions that you can skip with a clear conscience ... More ...

Give your Dog a Starring Role in Your Wedding

(27/08/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
Dogs being themselves make for magic moments. All you need to do is to give your dog the
opportunity by including them in your wedding every way you can. ... More ...

Celebrate Your Fathers in Your Wedding Ceremony

 (19/08/2020) Categories: | Inclusive Weddings | Wedding Ceremony |
There are so many ways to include both fathers in your ceremony.. ... More ...

You Absolutely Should Plan Your Wedding with Anniversaries in Mind

(18/08/2020) Categories: | Vow Renewals | Wedding Ceremony |
Weddings are about making memories, and one of the ways to keep the memory of your wedding alive is to celebrate your wedding anniversaries. Planning your wedding with future wedding anniversaries in mind is particularly important at the moment, when COVID-19 has imposed so many restrictions on weddings. ... More ...

Love Locks: a Ritual with Ancient Relevance and Contemporary Problems

(14/08/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
The love lock unity ritual is a relatively new ritual inspired by the custom of lovers attaching a padlock to a public structure and throwing away the key. It offers numerous possibilities for meaningful personalisation, but needs to be mindfully prepared and performed on the day ... More ...

Breakfast Weddings - A Beautiful Budget-Friendly Option

(11/08/2020) Categories: | Wedding Budget | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
Even on a weekend, having a breakfast wedding gives you more options and more chance of booking your chosen suppliers. And it is a very budget-friendly option .... More ...

Barefoot at Your Wedding - An Ancient Tradition

 (07/08/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Traditions |
Marrying in bare feet is an ancient Celtic tradition, easily translatable to the Australian environment. ... More ...

6 Good Reasons to Hold a Naming Ceremony

(06/08/2020) Categories: | Naming Ceremonies |
Why hold a naming ceremony? Apart from celebrating your child's arrival, a naming ceremony accomplishes some important things, all of which are good reasons for holding one ... More ...

Something Old Something New Something Borrowed Something Blue

(03/08/2020) Categories: | Wedding Traditions |
Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue is a rhyme and a tradition that has been part of the wedding scene in English speaking countries since Victorian times. These are the things that a bride is advised to wear or carry on her wedding day to ensure the success of the marriage and her own happiness ... More ...

Masked-Up and Married - How to Rock a Mask on your Wedding Day

(31/07/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Attire |
With COVID-19 compulsory mask-wearing anytime you leave your own home very definitely on
the agenda, it is time to do some forward planning and prepare to rock a mask on your wedding day if you are required to wear one ... More ...

34 Ways to Incorporate Tartan in Your Wedding Ceremony Without Wearing a Kilt

(26/07/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Traditions |
There are many ways to incorporate family tartans into your wedding ceremony apart from the men wearing kilts ... More ...

Redesigning Wedding Ceremonies for 2020

(19/07/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
While developing my own COVIDSafe plan for the ceremonies I officiate it became clear that many parts of the ceremony now need a different approach in order to keep everyone safe. The challenge is how to adapt the ceremony to make it safer without compromising the emotion of the occasion ... More ...

Wedding Cake Unity Ritual

(15/07/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals | Wedding Traditions |
A wedding cake unity ritual, where you cut and share your wedding cake during your ceremony, works well, both symbolically and practically, and is a great way to deal with the new COVID-19 restrictions on sharing the cake with guests  ... More ...

In 2020 Children Need to be Invited to Your Wedding

(12/07/2020) Categories: | Inclusive Weddings | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
There are good reasons why it is particularly important in 2020, a year where their lives have been disrupted, for children to experience wedding ceremonies  ... More ...

How to Have a Plastic Free Wedding

(03/07/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
Your wedding day is a great opportunity to share and showcase your values. It is also a day that presents multiple opportunities to either pile on the plastics or do your best to avoid that. So I've put together some suggestions, some simple, some straightforward, some the obvious,
and some a little bit cheeky!  ... More ...

What Makes a Good Wedding?

(28/06/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
After 14 years and well over 1000 weddings (legal and non-legal), together with 11 books and 190+
blog posts about things wedding, I know a bit about weddings, and what makes a good wedding, and what doesn't.  ... More ...

Can I sing my vows?

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
Smaller, more intimate weddings mean that couples feel more relaxed about thinking outside the box. But are you allowed to sing your vows?  ... More ...

Down the Aisle, Social Distancing Style

(26/06/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
With restrictions on numbers at weddings being relaxed, the aisle is coming back. But how do you set up your ceremony space and walk down the aisle with style when social distancing is still required?  ... More ...

Blowing Bubbles, Covid-19 Safe or Covid-19 Risky?

(23/06/2020) Categories: | Naming Ceremonies | Wedding Ceremony |
Is it safe to blow bubbles in your ceremony, or is there a risk of spreading COVID-19? ... More ...

How to be Gorgeous in Glasses on Your Wedding Day

(19/06/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Attire |
Marrying the person who fell in love with glasses-wearing you has got to be the best reason on the
planet to splurge on a new pair of luxury designer frames ... More ...

Cats and Weddings - A Melt Your Heart Combination

(17/06/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
Whatever the temperament of your kitty fur baby including them in your wedding photos is something you'll never regret. All it takes is a bit of caution and some forward planning to make sure your baby is safe and comfortable ... More ...

7 Things to Do With Your Vows After Your Wedding

(15/06/2020) Categories: |Vows| Wedding Ceremony |
The promises you make to one another are the heart, soul, and centrepiece of your ceremony.
They come from your best and higher selves. They are also the blueprint for your marriage and a timeless reminder of what is important to you both. So don't pack them away... More ...

Left or Right? Which Side is Correct for Your Wedding?

(14/06/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Traditions |
Which side is correct in a wedding depends on what we are talking about - flowers, rings, or seating ... More ...

5 Good Reasons to have a Theme Wedding

(12/06/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
Theme weddings are fun. They also tick all the boxes for a great experience for you and for your guests... More ...

Till Death Do Us Part - Traditional Yes, Required Definitely Not

(09/06/2020) Categories: |Vows | Wedding Ceremony |
Why do we associate Till Death Do Us Part with weddings and do you have to say it in your vows? ... More ...

Let's Talk About Bubbles in Your Wedding Ceremony

(03/06/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
Bubbles of both kinds (champagne and bubbles you blow) can add so much to a ceremony...  More ...

How to add Surprises to your Wedding Ceremony

(02/06/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
A great way to make sure your guests are engaged and entertained by your wedding ceremony is to do the unexpected, to surprise them....  More ...

More than "I do": 6 Things Your Wedding Ceremony Should Achieve

(30/05/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
A successful wedding ceremony will achieve six things ...  More ...

The Most Important Step in Your Wedding is Free!

(27/05/2020) Categories: | Wedding Legals |
Did you know that the most important part of your wedding happens after it is all over - and that it doesn't cost you a cent? ...  More ...

The Groom is Getting Married Too!

(23/05/2020) Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
On your wedding day, two people are getting married. It is time to give the groom equal billing, and here's how you can do that easily, without added expense, and without mystifying your guests ...  More ...

Let's Talk About Averages and Wedding Budgets

(23/05/2020) Categories: | Wedding Budget |
What is the average wedding budget? What does average mean? Averages normalise, and that
matters ... ...  More ...

When Coronavirus Forces You to Un-Invite People to Your Wedding

(18/05/2020) Categories: | Wedding Planning |
Social Distancing restrictions, together with the flow-own effect of rescheduled weddings competing with previously booked weddings for limited venue and vendor availability, is forcing couples to change plans, and this may require cutting guest numbers ...  More ...

Dressed for the Occasion: Personal Thoughts About What the Celebrant Wears for Your Wedding

(16/05/2020) Categories: |  Celebrant |
What do I have in my celebrant wardrobe? And how do I decide what to wear on the day? These are
important questions,  What your celebrant wears matters ...  More ...

How to have a Non-Legal Wedding Ceremony

(14/05/2020) Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
Getting married and having a wedding can be a two-step process.. ...  More ...

Celebrate Your Mothers in Your Wedding Ceremony

(10/05/2020) Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Inclusive Weddings |
There are so many ways to include both mothers in your ceremony. ...  More ...

Contact Tracing and Your Wedding

(09/05/2020 - Updated 17/05/2020) Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
As we progressively relax restrictions on weddings and gatherings there is a new rule -  contact records must be kept for all attendees ...  More ...

Double Weddings are Fun, Budget Friendly, and Poised for a Comeback

(06/05/2020) Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
Double weddings are great fun, budget friendly and likely to make a comeback because of extra competition for dates, venues and vendors that will flow on from weddings postponed in 2020 ...  More ...

What's the Best Time of the Day to Get Married?

(30/04/2020) Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
The time of day you choose for your wedding will have a significant impact on your whole day, including on your budget, your photographs, your choice of venue, and possibly on the availability of your preferred vendors and whether or not guests can attend ...  More ...

Your Wedding, Your Story

(28/04/2020) Categories: Wedding Ceremony |
Sharing your love story with your guests is a common feature in a marriage ceremony, but how do you do that in the best possible way, particularly when many of your friends and loved ones are not going to be able to be at your wedding? ...  More ...

ISO (Coronavirus) Weddings Can Be Oh So Romantic

(23/04/2020) Categories: Wedding Ceremony |
Rule of Five weddings under the current Coronavirus restrictions, are limited to the minimum number of people needed to be present for a legal marriage, but this should not mean that your wedding is a second-best alternative ...  More ...

Romantic Wedding Ring Ideas

(21/04/2020) Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
One of the most emotional (and romantic) high points of your marriage ceremony is the exchange of your wedding rings. Why not make that moment even more romantic by adding something unique to the two of you, something that emphasises that your rings symbolise your love and unity  ...  More ...

Isolation (Coronavirus) Weddings FAQ

(18/04/2020) Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
Current social isolation/social distancing restrictions on weddings are complicated because, while the Federal Government set the broad restrictions, the fine detail is controlled on a state by state basis.....  More ...

How to Write a Love Letter

(15/04/2020) Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning | Wedding Rituals|
What could possibly be more romantic than receiving a love letter? Writing one! Putting your love in writing is a way to have it endure for ever....  More ...

18 Romantic Things to do while in Lockdown

Coronavirus self-isolating rules need not put a dampener on romance. Here are 18 ways to up the romance while in lockdown with your partner...  More ...

12 Things Coronavirus Won't Stop You Having in Your "Rule of Five" Wedding

(04/04/2020) Categories: Wedding Ceremony |
Under current coronavirus restrictions you are only permitted to have a total of five people present at your wedding - the same five people that is the minimum number for the marriage to be legal. But the ceremony is not limited to the legal requirements only. You are free to make it as fun and fabulous as you wish ...  More ...

Coronavirus (COVID-19) and Your Rings

(30/03/2020) Categories: Wedding Ceremony |
The most common question about weddings under the new restrictions is about whether rings are
allowed. ...  More ...

Getting Married via Skype - Possible in Australia or Not?

(24/03/2020) Categories: Wedding CeremonyWedding Legals | Wedding Planning |
Sorry, it is NOT legal in Australia to get married over Skype, FaceTime, Google Hangouts, or
other videoconferencing technology, or by proxy. And this is why...   More ...

So Coronavirus Cancelled Your Wedding ... What Now?

(23/03/2020) Categories: Wedding CeremonyWedding Planning |
You've been thrown a curve ball that means your wedding can't go ahead on the day you've planned for, or, can't go ahead the way you've planned it. Closure of venues, restrictions on the number of people who can be in both indoor and outdoor spaces, travel restrictions, social distancing, and a lot of uncertainty because we have no idea how long this will last ...  More ...

What Should We Tell Our Guests About Our Wedding in the Time of the Coronavirus?

(19/03/2020) Categories: Wedding CeremonyWedding Planning |
With Government restrictions ramping up on a daily basis, concerns about flattening the curve, and worrying media reports about the effects of the Coronavirus (COVID-19) on weddings, you wouldn't be human if you weren't stressing about your wedding, or worrying about what you should tell your guests ...  More ...

Can You Have Two (or More) Weddings?

Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals | Wedding Planning |
Can you, as a marrying couple, have more than one wedding? The answer is Yes, but also, That Depends... More ...

Coronavirus and Your Wedding - Some Suggestions

Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals | Wedding Planning |
How novel Coronavirus (COVID-19) might impact your planned wedding is a hot topic at the moment. So, should you be concerned? Or, in the words of that wonderful World War II advice, Alert but not Alarmed? ... More ...

You Are Never Too Old To Get Married the Way you Want

Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
How do you, as a mature age couple, negotiate the whole process of wedding planning when most of the marketing, information, and focus out in wedding land is on the younger couple wanting the fairy-tale wedding experience? ... More ...

The Importance of Consent: Why no-one can force you to marry, to kiss in your wedding, or to have sex afterwards

Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
Celebrants in Australia have to be on the lookout for any indication that you might not be freely and willingly agreeing to marry, and if we are at all concerned, to pull the plug on the wedding. You can't be forced to marry, to kiss during the wedding, or to  have sex after marriage ... More ...

Not "Just a Celebrant" (and Not "Just Half an Hour")

Categories: | Celebrant | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals | Wedding Planning |
What does a celebrant do? And why do they charge for more than the half hour the ceremony takes? The easy answer is that a celebrant changes your legal status from not-married to married. which is a pretty big thing. Life-changing, in fact. And they do that by creating and performing a ceremony. But it certainly doesn't stop there. When you hire me as a celebrant, you're getting a lot more than someone who will make sure you tick a few legal boxes, stand up in front of your guests, rabbit on for a bit, and then declare that you are married. ... More ...

Giving Notice of Your Intended Marriage when You Live at Opposite Ends of the Country (or the Earth)

Categories: | Wedding Legals |
Giving Notice of your Intended Marriage when you are not together in the same state or country is not as difficult as it might seem at first. ... More ...

May Love Be Your Umbrella: Using Umbrellas and Parasols in Your Wedding Ceremony

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
Umbrellas present fabulously Instagrammable opportunities for your wedding, including many richly symbolic ways to feature them in the ceremony ... More ...

No Licence Needed

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals | Wedding Planning
Getting married in Australia is super simple. You don't need a marriage licence, and your venue doesn't have to have a licence to host wedding ceremonies ... More ...

Stand by Me - Or Please Be Seated: There are No Rules for Your Bridal Party, or for Guests at Your Wedding

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
There are no rules that require your wedding party to stand up in the front for the whole ceremony. It is your choice. However, deciding whether your wedding party will stand with you, or be seated, comes down to a number of things ... More ...

You Just Got Engaged. Now What?

Categories: | Wedding Planning |
So, the question was popped. You said yes. Everyone got excited. Now What? Well, everyone will start asking the When? and Where? and How? questions. Here are my top three picks for 1, 2, and 3, on your We're Engaged, What Next To Do List... More ...

Rain On Your Wedding Day - Good Luck or Bad Luck?

Categories: | Wedding Traditions |
Is rain on your wedding day good luck or bad luck? In multiple cultures rain represents fertility, cleansing, and renewal, and, extrapolated from those beliefs, in relation to weddings, unity and tears.... More ...

Proposal Do's and Don'ts

Categories: | Wedding Traditions |
Dos and Don't of proposing learned over many years of hearing proposal stories from couples I have married... More ...

Your Grand Entrance: How to walk down the aisle with style

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Traditions |
Guests at weddings are very accepting of couples doing their own thing and making their own decisions about how to walk down the aisle. No-one bats an eye if you choose to do something other than walk down the aisle on the arm of your father. And most people no longer assume that, if you do walk down the aisle on your father's arm, the ceremony that follows will be ultra-traditional and totally predictable. ... More ...

Your Marriage Certificate(s)

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
Every couple marrying in Australia will be presented with a certificate on the day. That certificate is proof that you are married, but it isn't proof that your marriage has been registered. So you need a second (and different) certificate as well ... More ...

How to have a Stress-Free Wedding in Your Own Backyard

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
The benefits of holding your wedding in your own backyard are many, and varied, but they all add up to two things - a backyard wedding is easy on the budget, and it gives you the ultimate opportunity create a more relaxed, more personal feel to your wedding. More ...

Love and Laughter make for an Unboring Wedding

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
Other than getting the legal bits right, spontaneous and shared laughter is the most important ingredient for a wedding ceremony. It lifts the mood. It relaxes everyone. When everyone is laughing they are engaged in an experience. They are not merely an audience ... More ...

What's a Legals Only Wedding? 

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
You might be wondering what those Legals Only weddings you've seen advertised are. Simply put, Legals Only is marriage celebrant speak/shorthand for the bare minimum ceremony as required by the Marriage Act. But that's not the whole story  ... More ...

What is a month? 

Categories: Wedding Legals |
What is a month? is an all-important question because you can't legally be married less than a full calendar month from the day you give Notice (on the Notice of Intended Marriage) ... More ...

When (soppily) romantic isn't your thing 

Categories: Wedding Ceremony |
Your wedding ceremony doesn't have to be dripping with sentimentality to be meaningful, and special, and a real reflection of the commitment the two of you have to one another and to your marriage. If you don't do soppy, and don't feel comfortable with lovey-dovey poetry or extravagant vows, you can still have a personal ceremony that is everything you wish for." ... More ...

It's True - Your Marriage Ceremony can be Unstructured! 

Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
It might surprise you to learn that there is nothing in the Marriage Act that requires that your marriage ceremony has to follow a tightly structured script. As long as you meet the very minimal legal requirements, everything else is optional! ... More ...

Charitable Giving and your Wedding 

Categories: Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
There are many ways to make charitable giving part of your wedding, including making it part of your ceremony, and it is always a good idea to give your guests a heads-up if you are asking them to give to a cause dear to you ... More ...

Your Wedding Party - Busting the Myths 

Categories: | Inclusive Weddings Wedding Ceremony |
Four myths about wedding parties persist, despite it being the 21st century, despite society more inclusive, and despite three quarters of wedding ceremonies in Australia being civil ceremonies where ceremony content is all about personal choice and ensuring that your wedding reflects who you are as a couple. ... More ...

When Disaster Strikes - Plan D - How to Get Married Legally When your Venue and your Celebrant are Unreachable

Categories: | Wedding Legals | Wedding Planning |
The one thing that is required to make any Plan B work is the capacity to communicate. When disaster strikes, and communications are cut, even the most detailed and multi-faceted Plan B is useless. So what can you do if you've planned your wedding (and a viable Plan B), and now your venue and your celebrant are within one of the disaster zones ... More ...

How to Get Them to the Ceremony on Time 

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
Guests arriving late to the ceremony is a common problem which puts you, your celebrant, your
photographer, together with other guests  in the unenviable position of having to decide whether you will exchange your vows in front of a lot of empty seats, have special people miss the ceremony, suffer
disruptions caused by people wandering in half way through the ceremony, or become unwell because of a long wait in the heat. ... More ...

The Gift of a Good Name 

Categories: | Naming Ceremonies |
Celebrating the gift of a good name with a naming ceremony is a wonderful way to acknowledge the person your child is, and will become. ... More ...

How to have a Hygge Wedding in a Heatwave 

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
A hygge wedding is a perfect way to beat the heat and have a cosy and comfortable wedding ... More ...

Choosing the Right Time for your Naming Ceremony 

Categories: | Naming Ceremonies |
Achieving a happy and successful naming ceremony for your child has a lot to do with how and when you schedule the ceremony ... More ...

The When, Why, How, and Who of the First Look

Categories: |  Wedding Traditions|
The incredibly romantic moment when a couple first locks eyes on their wedding day is a must-have photo opportunity. First look wedding photos have been topping the wedding wish lists for some time now ...    More ...

The When, Why, and How of Renewing Your Vows

Categories: Celebrant | Vow Renewals |
There is a growing trend for couples to renew (reaffirm) their wedding vows. More and more couples are doing it, and they aren't waiting for the traditional milestone Silver or Golden wedding anniversaries because there are many more good reasons to renew your vows  ...    More ...

Can Guests Sign Your Marriage Certificate?

Categories: Celebrant | Wedding Legals |
Your Presentation Certificate is a legal document, therefore only your two legal witnesses may sign it, along with you and your celebrant. But there are other lovely options for guests to sign  ...    More ...

Easy ways to Conquer Your Fears about Your Vows 

Categories: | Vows | Wedding Ceremony |
One of the biggest fears couples share with me is about speaking in public and stuffing up their vows, but making your vows to one another is not like standing on a platform, facing an audience, and making a speech. So there are ways to avoid ugly crying  ... More ...

How Many Toilets Does Your Wedding Need?   

Categories: |  Wedding Planning |
The ratio of toilets to guests at your wedding is incredibly important. Here's how to do the maths to make sure that the venue you choose has sufficient ...    More ...

Tree Planting Ritual  

Categories: | Naming Ceremonies | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
The planting of a tree during a wedding, naming ceremony, or memorial ceremony is a powerful ritual. ... More ...

Micro Weddings - Pluses and Opportunities Galore    

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
While a Micro Wedding is usually interpreted to be abbreviated on all fronts - a shorter, simpler ceremony and celebration with only a handful of guests - it allows greater flexibility and offers many wonderful possibilities not possible in a larger wedding. ...    More ...

10 Ways to Beat the Heat on Your Wedding Day    

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
Australia is a hot place where outdoor weddings are popular. Heat can compromise your wedding in many ways, Doing these 10 things can help you beat the heat and have a fantastic day ...    More ...

Religion in your Civil Marriage Ceremony     

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
In Australia there is no prohibition on including personal expressions of religious or spiritual belief in a civil marriage ceremony, and there are many ways to do this ...    More ...

I Won't Judge You or Your Choices (unless the Law makes me do so)

Categories: Celebrant | Wedding Legals |
There are some things which the law, and my obligations under the law as a Marriage Celebrant, requires me to make judgements about. But there are many things that people fear being judged about that I definitely don't and won't judge you for ...    More ...

1st Birthday Naming Ceremonies are Extra Special  

Categories: | Naming Ceremonies |
A naming ceremony has much in common with a birthday celebration, so celebrating the two at the same event makes a great deal of sense, symbolically, emotionally, and financially ... More ...

Making Sure Your Wedding Service Providers are Legit     

Categories: | Wedding Planning |
Checking out your other service providers to make sure they are legit is a bit more complicated than ensuring your celebrant is duly authorised, but definitely worth the effort if you want to not only avoid disappointment on your wedding day, but ensure that they are going to meet your expectations... More ...

Genius Wedding Planning in a Nutshell     

Categories: | Wedding Planning |
It's easy and simple to build your own wedding planner and checklist based on the reality of your wedding. What this means is that you create your own list of deadlines in conjunction with your own To Do list to create an infinitely scalable planner, suitable for big weddings, small weddings, and microweddings regardless of how much lead time you have...  More ...

Don't let FOMO wreck your budget ... or your wedding     

Categories: | Wedding Budget| Wedding Planning |
Fear of Missing Out can prompt you to spend money without due consideration or sign up to wedding services in a hurry, leaving you with Buyers Remorse, or worse...   More ...

Nail your Vows by doing these 3 simple things     

Categories: | Vows | Wedding Ceremony |
I've never met a couple who didn't want their exchange of vows to go without a hitch on the day. The  good news is, like everything else about your wedding, preparation is key. Doing 3 simple things before you start writing your vows will guarantee a flawless vow exchange ...    More ...

Wedding Insurance

Categories:  | Wedding Planning |
However good your Plan B is, it may well not be adequate where a catastrophic natural disaster, severe illness, or vendor non-performance is concerned. Having to cancel or postpone your wedding can be financially very costly,
unless you are insured.....  More ...

Avoid pre-wedding dramas with a Witness Lottery

Categories:  | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals | Wedding Planning |
Because being witness is an honour, not choosing someone who expected to be chosen can cause hurt feelings and a ongoing drama, including broken friendships and family rifts. Sidestep problems by having a witness lottery ....  More ...

A Spontaneous Wedding? Yes you can

Categories:  | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals | Wedding Planning |
Does that whole let's get married now vibe appeal to you? No big wedding, just running away and doing it without any fuss and bother?...  More ...

Being a Godparent at a Naming Ceremony - What you need to know

Categories:  Naming Ceremonies |
Being asked to be a godparent for a child is a huge honour. While there are many similarities between being a godparent at a religious Christening and being a godparent at a Naming Ceremony, there are also some significant
differences  More ...

More than one Plan B for your wedding is a must!

Categories:  | Wedding Planning |
You need Plans B1, B2, and B3 to cover all eventualities and to make sure your wedding can go ahead on the day ...  More ...

7 Things to Read at your Wedding instead of a Poem

Categories:  | Wedding Ceremony |
While meaningful readings can add to the whole emotional impact of a personal ceremony, just inserting a standard reading or two adds little or nothing, and can detract. marrying with a civil celebrant opens up many more possibilities, as long as we think outside the box and don't feel constrained by (or obligated to follow) the tradition of including 3 readings  More ...

Saying I Do in Secret (it's legal!)

Categories:  | Wedding Legals | Wedding Planning |
If you choose to be married with a civil celebrant in Australia you can be married in secret ...  More ...

7 Surprising Facts about Getting Married in Australia

Categories:  | Wedding Legals | Wedding Planning |
Getting married in Australia is easier than many people imagine - here are some little known facts that confirm that. ...  More ...

Balloons and Bushfires 

Categories: | Naming Ceremonies | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals | Wedding Planning |
Balloon releases can cause or spread bushfires  More ...

The Heart Moves On - Using Ceremony to Mark the End of a Relationship

Categories: | Vows | Divorce Ceremonies |
How to plan a positive divorce or end of relationship ceremony ...  More ...

"You May Now Diss the Bride": How NOT to Plan a Divorce Ceremony

Categories: | Vows | Divorce Ceremonies |
A divorce ceremony can be a positive way of formally acknowledging the past and moving forward into single life, so it is best to avoid negativity in the ceremony ...  More ...

Adult Naming and Gender Affirmation Ceremonies   

Categories: | Vows | Naming Ceremonies |
An important part of transitioning is choosing a new name and transitioning socially, letting other know your true gender. A formal naming ceremony can be a significant part of the process and a way to gather those who support you round you in celebration of your preferred name.  More ...

Will your overseas destination wedding be recognised in Australia?

Categories:  | Wedding Legals |
While Australia generally recognises overseas marriages, as long as those marriages would be legal if solemnised in Australia, there are a number of things you need to do to make sure your destination marriage overseas is recognised in Australia ...  More ...

OMG! We forgot the rings ...

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning | Wedding Rituals |
Forgetting the wedding rings happens. But it doesn't have to if you have strategies in place to avoid this. Worst case scenario? There are multiple creative ways to deal with being ringless on the day... More ...

Jumping the Broom

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
Jumping the broom is a joyful transition ritual that ends a marriage ceremony on a high note. Hand-in-hand the marrying couple move into married life by jumping over a decorated broom at the beginning of their walk back up the aisle... More ...

20 things you can do in a backyard wedding
that you most likely won’t be able to do anywhere else

Categories:  | Wedding Planning |
Hosting your own wedding in your own backyard opens up a wide range of possibilities, not only to save money, but also to make your wedding totally unique because you have complete control over every aspect of the day in a way you don’t if you marry in a wedding venue, or even in a public park   More ...

Will your Australian marriage be recognised overseas?

Categories:  | Wedding Legals |
Will a marriage registered in Australia will be recognised overseas? Generally speaking, legal marriages solemnised in Australia are recognised world wide, but that's not the whole story  More ...

The curious reasons why Marriage Documents are signed with black ink

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
Have you ever wondered why your marriage certificate must be signed in black ink? Or, indeed, why the Notice of Intended Marriage should be filled in using black ink (if you're filling it in by hand)? It has a lot to do with archival requirements - but also with status!  More ...

Acknowledgement of Country

Categories: |Inclusive Weddings | Wedding Ceremony |
Starting your wedding or other ceremony with an Acknowledgement of Country sends a powerful message of respect and inclusion... More ...

Oathing Stone Wedding Ritual

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
The oathing stone is an ancient Celtic tradition that can add meaningful symbolism to your wedding ceremony - and can be used as a planned or emergency substitute for wedding rings... More ...

Wedding Budget Blow-outs - how to avoid them

Categories: | Wedding Budget |
By far the most significant cause of wedding stress is money. Aligning your wedding day dreams with what you can afford is not an easy task. Creating a budget and sticking to it takes time, concentration, and commitment when there is so much choice of ways to spend on your wedding, and so many unintended and unexpected ways in which your budget can blow out.    More ...

Sweet Wedding Rituals

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
Honey and sugar are traditionally used in many cultures to wish a couple a sweet married life. These customs can add a beautifully romantic moment to a contemporary wedding ceremony... More ...

Coffee Unity Ceremony

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
A coffee unity ceremony can be a variation on the wine ceremony, or a variation on the sand ceremony, depending on whether you use liquid coffee or coffee beans.  More ...

Booze, Pills, and your Wedding

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
Being drunk or under the influence of other substances, legal or otherwise, can prevent you from getting married  More ...

Showcasing Wedding Music Makers

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
One of the joys of being a celebrant is seeing other wedding professionals "on the job", and working with them as a team. Recently, I took the opportunity to delve into what lies behind the skills of a couple of favourite wedding music makers, and what enables them to make the magic they do  More ...

Quick-fix hacks for unexpected wedding problems

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
There will always be something that doesn’t go to plan on the day. Some have the potential to derail the whole wedding.. ...   More ...

Wine ceremonies for vineyard weddings

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
A wedding in a winery or vineyard offers not only a wide range of settings for your ceremony - both indoors and out, depending on the facilities made available by the particular winery - but also creative inspiration for the ceremony. ...   More ...

Realistic Wedding Readings

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
If you're a down to earth couple, with a realistic view of what marriage really entails, the vast majority of the poems and poetic prose read at weddings are just not for you. I've gathered together a selection of more down-to-earth readings...   More ...

Showcasing Wedding Photographers

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
One of the joys of being a celebrant is seeing other wedding professionals "on the job", and working with them as a team. Recently, I took the opportunity to sit down with two photographers I always love working with to delve into what lies behind the skills, what enables them to make the magic they do.   More ...

Ageist Judgemental Celebrants Make Me VERY Cross

Categories: | Celebrant | Inclusive Weddings | Wedding Ceremony |
A rant about celebrant advertising that is judgemental of clients and ageist about other celebrants ...    More ...

Getting married when you don’t identify with a gender

Categories:  Inclusive Weddings | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
Gender is now immaterial when getting married in Australia. When marrying you do not have to use gendered terminology or adhere to gendered role ...    More ...

Children in your bridal party

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
Including children in your bridal party can make for unexpectedly magic moments ...    More ...

Getting the Author right for a Wedding Reading

Categories:  | Wedding Ceremony |
A popular poem claimed to be a translation of an original Persian poem by Sufi poet, Hafiz, is found not to be so. This is a problem because ...    More ...

Wedding Reading - Epithalamium

Categories:  | Wedding Ceremony |
A beautiful poem read at the wedding of the first gay couple to legally marry in Scotland ...    More ...

Surprise Weddings - How to have a successful one without breaking the law

Categories:  | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals | Wedding Planning |
The Marriage Act is very clear. Surprise weddings are illegal - but only if one of the marrying
couple is being surprised. Which means there are plenty of legal ways to have a surprise wedding ...    More ...

Unity Candle Ceremony

Categories:  | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
The Unity Candle Ceremony - what it is and how to prepare for it ...    More ...

Unity Sand Ceremony

Categories:  | Naming Ceremonies| Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
The Unity Sand Ceremony - what it is, how it is done, and what you need   More ...

How Many Bridesmaids is Just the Right Number?

Categories:  | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning | Wedding Traditions |
There is a very fine line between an appropriate number of bridesmaids (and groomsmen) and just too many, and a wide range of factors that come into play when deciding how many is the right number for your wedding ...    More ...

Writing your vows doesn't have to be hard     

Categories: | Vows | Wedding Ceremony |
Writing your own vows is a wonderful way to personalise your ceremony - and it is not difficult if you remember one simple thing ...    More ...

Trash the Dress and other things to do with your wedding gown after the big day

Categories: | Wedding Attire |
Your wedding day has been and gone. And now you have that lovely dress hanging in your closet. What to do with it? ....More ...

Your Wedding Scentscape: 7 top tips to a planning a memory-making wedding

Categories: | Wedding Planning |
Science tells us that smells trigger more vivid emotional memories and are better at inducing that feeling of “being brought back in time” than images.  Science also tells us that fragrances can have a powerful calming effect. When planning your wedding, plan for the memories. One of the simplest ways to do that is to plan not only how your ceremony, and the celebration afterwards will look and feel, but also how it smells....  More ...

Civil Ceremony, Secular Ceremony, Humanist Ceremony. What's the difference?

Categories:  | Wedding Ceremony |
All legal marriages in Australia are, in a sense, civil marriage, because they are registered and recognised by the state. Secular and Humanist marriage ceremonies differ in some profound ways...  More ...

Waiting for a proposal? This post is for the ladies ...

Categories:  | Wedding Traditions |
Prime proposal season (Christmas-New Year) and second-most-popular-proposal-day (Valentine's Day) have been and gone. Are you still waiting for that expected proposal? The notion that the gold standard for proposals is the male proposing is not as long-standing a tradition as you might think. A growing number of women are successfully popping the question...  More ...

Weddings are rife with bullying – and its got to stop

Categories:  | Wedding Planning | Wedding Traditions |
There are many forms of common wedding bullying and it is not all about the bride bullying the bridesmaids...  More ...

Is it OK for a guest to wear white to a wedding?

Categories:  | Wedding Traditions |
The "never wear white to a wedding" rule is one of those hard and fast rules of etiquette that pretty well everyone has accepted for a very, very long time. In the 21st is this a rule that can be broken?  ...  More ...

When are you actually legally married?

Categories:  | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
There are many incorrect assumptions about when in the sequence of the ceremony, the signing, and the registration of their marriage a couple is actually legally married. ...  More ...

On the Hidden Costs of Being "Fashionably" Late to Your Wedding

Categories: | Wedding Traditions | Wedding Budget |
Being fashionably late to your wedding, is not only not a must do tradition, it can cost you, big time, in more ways that just money ...  More ...

Has Marriage Equality Changed Weddings? – My Predictions Revisited

Categories: | Inclusive Weddings | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
A year ago, I predicted that Marriage Equality would change all weddings in Australia, as more and more heterosexual couples, previously constrained by a wedding playbook that includes outmoded traditions and embedded roles defined by gender, experience the individual, meaningful, expressions of an equal relationship in the weddings of same-sex couples  - and that every wedding, gay or straight, would be the better for it.  So how accurate was I?   More ...

Tossing the Garter – Yes or No??

Categories: | Wedding Rituals | Wedding Traditions |
Tossing the Garter is a wedding tradition that a growing number of couples are choosing to skip altogether for various reasons.  But skipping the embarrassing bit (the retrieval from the bride's leg) and changing up how it is tossed can add a lot of fun to the occasion while avoiding the things that can be an issue    More ...

What if Someone Objects?

Categories:  | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
We've all seen it in movie after movie - If anyone knows any reason why these two should not be joined in marriage, speak now .... So what happens if someone objects at your wedding?    More ...

Witnesses and Weddings

Categories:  | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
In Australia, no matter whether you marry in church, the registry office, or by a civil celebrant, and no matter whether you have the big white wedding with a large wedding party, or choose just to elope, the one thing that every wedding must have is two witnesses...    More ...

Friend or Professional Celebrant?

Categories: | Celebrant | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
Would choosing a friend instead of a professional celebrant to conduct your wedding ceremony be a good option for you?  Everything you need to consider - and how you can have the best of both worlds ...    More ...

How to have a Gracious Wedding

Categories: | Inclusive Weddings | Wedding Planning |
Most couples today host their own weddings. Here are 35 ways to make sure that everyone feels welcome, appreciated, and both physically and emotionally comfortable.  ...    More ...

Before you Meet Your Celebrant

Categories: | Celebrant | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
There are two distinct aspects to getting married - planning the ceremony and meeting the legal requirements.  Without the ceremony, your wedding will just be an expensive party. And without meeting the legal requirements you will not be legally married! Here is a list of things to decide and things to do before you meet with me. If you can tick off all of these the process will go smoothly and efficiently.  ...    More ...

8 Ways to Reduce Your Wedding Stress

Categories: | Wedding Planning |
8 easy ways to take control of your wedding and reduce your wedding stress  ...    More ...

Privacy and You,  Your Wedding, Your Marriage

Categories: | Wedding Legals |
If you’ve ever wondered what my reasons are for rarely posting photos of the couple, or mentioning their names, even though I’ve officiated well over 800 legal marriages ...    More ...

Wedding Budget Hidden Costs that Everyone Forgets

Categories: | Wedding Budget |
Here are the four major sources of hidden costs that you need to be aware of, and budget for, when planning your wedding.    More ...

You, Your Wedding, and Trans-Gender and Non-Binary Inclusivity

Categories: | Inclusive Weddings | Wedding Planning |
If you’re a Cis-gender couple planning your own wedding, issues of gender identity may not be front and centre in the process. However there are good reasons why they should be. Here are some tips on how to make sure your wedding is a comfortable and inclusive experience for everyone who attends, regardless of their gender identity.    More ...

8 Simple Ways to Keep Within your Wedding Budget

Categories: | Wedding Budget | Wedding Planning |
One of the most difficult aspects of wedding planning is keeping within your wedding budget. Here are 8 simple things that will make that a breeze ...    More ...

Wine Box or First Fight Box?   (20/09/2018)

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
Why an Anniversary Wine Box is a more appropriate ritual for a wedding than a First Fight Box    More ...

Bride promising to obey until death? Not any more      (09/09/2018)

Categories: | Vows | Wedding Ceremony |
A very common question from brides is "Do I have to promise to obey"    More ...

Is your celebrant duly authorised?      (06/08/2018)

Categories: | Celebrant | Wedding Legals |
While scams involving persons who are not authorised celebrants are extremely rare in Australia, now that a celebrant can be deregistered forthwith if he or she fails to pay the annual fee celebrants are now required to pay, it is particularly important to check whether your celebrant is still registered  More ...

How to choose your celebrant like you’d choose a car… (updated 14/06/2018)

Categories:  | Celebrant |
Just as the car you choose not only has to fit your budget but also be fit for purpose, so does your celebrant. .... More ...

'You may kiss your bride' - oh yeah?  How to have the Perfect (and Perfectly Modern) Kiss (updated 04/08/2018)

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Traditions |
As a celebrant I not only see many many wedding kisses, I also have the responsibility of prompting them. Your first kiss as a married couple will be photographed and remembered by your guests (and everyone who sees the photographs) for years and years, so it is important to plan for the perfect kiss!
More ....

The Importance of Wedding Invitations ... and other Wedding Stationery (16/02/2018)

Categories: | Wedding Planning |
Of all the "must haves" attached to a wedding, the two that seem to be pushed to the bottom of the budget are the celebrant (without whom you'd just be having a very expensive party) and the invitations (without which none of the people you want to be there would know the important where and when facts).... More ...

Rice, Birdseed, and Weddings (04/02/2018)

Categories: | Wedding Traditions |
Rice, traditionally thrown at weddings,  is rarely seen nowadays because churches, reception venues, and local authorities usually ban the throwing of rice, along with confetti, but replacing it with birdseed is not a good idea... More ...

How Marriage Equality Will Change Wedding Ceremonies (17/01/2018)

Categories:  | Inclusive Weddings | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
This is my prediction – wedding ceremonies will change, but it won’t be a case of  the wedding industry merely accommodating same-sex couples. Rather same sex couples will influence, by example, all civil wedding ceremonies in Australia, and all weddings will be the better for it.  More ...

Same Sex Ceremonies - Negotiating the Gendered Nature of Ceremony Traditions (09/01/2018)

Categories: | Inclusive Weddings | Wedding Traditions |
Rather than assign roles, assign various customs .... More ...

Multicultural Fusion Weddings (08/01/2018)

Categories: | Inclusive Weddings | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals | Wedding Traditions | Wedding Planning |
If you are an intercultural couple, how do you navigate your ceremony?  It is not uncommon to have two ceremonies.  But there is a third option - a fusion wedding ceremony that incorporates the traditions of what are important to you both ... .... More ...

8 Things I've Learned Over 11 Years of Being a Marriage Celebrant (04/01/2018)

Categories:  | Wedding Planning |
Some of the things I've learned include it is never too early to book important vendors, the most common questions asked, the most common fear, and more .... More ...

Behind the Scenes: What Goes on in Preparing your Ceremony (02/01/2018)

Categories: | Celebrant | Wedding Budget |
It is not unusual for a celebrant to receive a request for a lowball fee on the grounds that "it is only an hour". However, what you and your guests see on the day is only a fraction of what I do to make your ceremony special and your marriage legal.  An incredible amount of work and preparation happens behind the scenes to make that hour possible. It is also not unusual for full realisation of how much behind the scenes preparation is involved to sink in only when a couple attends other weddings down the track and sees the result of some of that behind the scenes work being omitted ... Read on

Civil Celebrants and Clergy - what's the difference and does it matter? (01/12/2017)

Categories: |  Celebrant |
The Marriage Act, along with Dean Smith's Bill currently making it's way through the Parliamentary process, differentiates between Clergy and Civil Celebrants in what they can and can't do.  So, what is the difference between civil celebrants and clergy, and, if you are planning to marry, does it matter .... More ...

Signing the Register and the Certificates (updated 16/12/2017)

Categories:  |  Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals |
Everything you need to know about signing the Marriage Register and Marriage Certificates .... More ...

Your celebrant is NOT ripping you off (it is more than just half an hour) (10/07/2017)

Categories:  | Celebrant | Wedding Budget | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
There is an awful lot that goes into the half-hour the ceremony lasts - and that's what you are paying for .... More ...

All About Silk (03/02/2017)

Categories:  | Wedding Attire |
Silk is the luxury fabric. Used both in wedding gowns on for grooms' ties. To learn about the many types of silk ....More ...

All About Lace (30/01/2017)

Categories:  | Wedding Attire  |
Lace and weddings go together like, well, wedding gowns and weddings. Regarded to be the traditional bridal fabric, it has been popular for luxury wedding gowns for centuries. To learn about the most popular types of lace used in wedding gowns ....More ...

The Drones are Coming (24/01/2017)

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
This year I predict that drones will be the must-have at a wedding. But there are some things you need to take into account to ensure disaster doesn't strike.... More ...

How to have an Environmentally Friendly and Socially Conscious Wedding (25/10/2016)

Categories:  | Wedding Budget | Wedding Planning |
Environmentally friendly celebrations do not have to lack style. As well as ensuring that you do not start your married life by unwittingly contributing to climate change or environmental damage, making socially conscious choices can save you money – and provide a defensible justification for not breaking the bank!  Here's how: ...Read on ...

Great Wedding Photos Start in the Mind (22/09/2016)

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
Mindset and mind-power can make or break your wedding photos ...Read on ...

How much does a wedding cost? (18/09/2016)

Categories: | Wedding Budget | Wedding Planning |
While other parts of the retail sector are seeing a downturn, even though the number of weddings in Australia per year is dropping, the wedding industry is flourishing - and that is costing couples big time. But it doesn't have to ... Read on ...

How to Train your Flower Girl for a Brilliant Petal Toss (14/09/2016)

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |  Wedding Planning |
There is nothing sweeter than a flower girl tossing petals with exuberant abandon. But achieving that takes a little training ... Read on ...

And the Flower Girl wore a Backpack ... (14/09/2016)

Categories: |  Wedding CeremonyWedding Planning |
Give the children you want involved in your wedding ceremony the choice of what they will do and what they will wear and magic happens ...  More ...

Everything you Learned about Wedding Ceremonies from Married at First Sight is WRONG ... (13/09/2016)

Categories:  | Wedding Ceremony  |
Married at First Sight
is about the worst wedding manual on the planet ... and here's
why ...  More ...

How to Remember and Honour Deceased Loved Ones in your Wedding Ceremony (09/09/2016)

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
Memorialising deceased loved ones is something many couples wish to include in their wedding. There are many ways to do this, and many things that need to be considered ... More ...

How to avoid getting less than you paid for ... or more than you bargained for ... when booking your ceremony (04/09/2016)

Categories: | Wedding Budget | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Legals | Wedding Planning |
Insider tips about what to look at when considering a ceremony package...   More ...

How (Not) to Stagger Down the Aisle (in 3 easy steps) (31/08/2016)

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
There is an art to walking down the aisle elegantly - and most of it relates to preparation ...   More ...

The One Simple Thing Most Couples Forget When Choosing a Ceremony Venue


Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
There is a very simple thing that makes all the difference when choosing your ceremony venue. Forgetting to do it is a serious oversight ... More ...

The Shocking Truth about Wedding Dresses (22/08/2016)

Categories: | Wedding Budget | Wedding Attire |
The single biggest contributor to the carbon footprint of your wedding may surprise you ... More ...

How to Avoid the #1 Wedding Embarrassment (15/08/2016)

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
The most feared wedding embarrassment is something that nobody wants to do in public, let alone at their wedding ... More .....

6 Good Reasons to Celebrate when Something Goes Wrong at your Wedding

(updated 26/07/2017)
Categories: | Wedding Planning |
There is no such thing as a perfect wedding, But that's reason to celebrate, and here's why...More ....

Wedding Psychology: How and Where to Stand (30/07/2016)

Categories:  | Wedding Ceremony |
How and where the bride and groom stand during the ceremony not only impacts on photographs of the ceremony, it can have a far-reaching impact on the marriage,   More ....

Bali Weddings (27/07/2016 updated 25/09/2019 to reflect changes in Indonesian law)

Categories: |  Wedding Legals | Wedding Planning |
Everything you need to know about getting married with an Australian celebrant in Bali ...  More ...

10 Things we "Know" about Getting Married that Ain't So (26/07/2016)

Categories:  | Wedding Legals | Wedding Planning |
As Artemus Ward said 'It ain't so much the things we don't know that get us in trouble. It's the things we know that ain't so.' In wedding land there are a lot of common beliefs that just aren't true ...  More ....

How to get the best "getting ready" photos (23/07/2016)

Categories: | Wedding Planning |
Ensuring that your 'getting ready' photos are fantastic requires not just a photographer with skills and a good eye, but some preparation on the part of the bridal party.   ...  More ....

How to create a talking logo for your wedding  (23/07/2016)

Categories: | Wedding Planning  |
Borrow a tool from business networking for effective communication about your wedding  ...  More ....

Scottish Islamic Tartan (19/07/2016)

Categories: | Inclusive Weddings | Wedding Planning |
Anyone, regardless of faith or genetic background can have a Tartan Wedding, something demonstrated by an official registered tartan  ... More ....

The Problem with Wedding Readings (17/07/2016)

Categories: | Celebrant | Wedding Ceremony |
Most people assume that you have to have readings in a wedding ceremony. Unfortunately, on the day they often don't work ... More ....

Microphone Wars  (17/07/2016)

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
Most celebrants use a hand-held microphone. But is that the best choice? ... More ....

Food, Flowers, and Furniture (updated 30/07/2018)

Categories: | Celebrant | Wedding Ceremony |
Every now and then, someone asks me what I supply in terms of styling and other add-ons for a wedding ... More ....

Drone and GO  (06/08/2016)

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
Drone and GO, sounds like the typical wedding ceremony, doesn't it - the celebrant drones on, and eventually you get to kiss and go. But that's not what this post is about ... More ....

Talking Heads (13/07/2016)

Categories: | Wedding Ceremony |
Let's face it. Most wedding ceremonies are pretty ordinary. And that's partly because they are all about words. Bride, Groom, and Celebrant as Talking Heads, with the celebrant doing 98% of the talking ...More ....