Meet Your Celebrant
(19/11/2018) | Categories:
| Celebrant | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Planning |
There are two distinct aspects to
getting married - planning the ceremony and
meeting the legal requirements. Without
the ceremony, your wedding will just be an expensive
party. And without meeting the legal requirements
you will not be legally married! Here is a list of
things to decide and things to do before you meet
with me. If you can tick off all of these the
process will go smoothly and efficiently.
Planning the Ceremony
- Choose the date and time
Like all celebrants, my diary fills up in
semi-unpredictable ways. Popular dates and
may fill quickly, but there could also be whole
weekends that I have free. Unless you have a date in
mind I can't tell you whether I'm available or not.
And unless you lock me in with a booking contract
and part of the fee, I don't guarantee to hold the
date open for you.
- Choose the venue
Venues also book up in erratic ways. Some are booked
years in advance. Some not so far in advance. A late
cancellation can unexpectedly free up a popular
date. You won't know until you enquire. And the date
isn't guaranteed yours until you have signed the
contract and paid a deposit. If you love the
venue but they are booked for your chosen day and
time, enquire about a breakfast or lunch-time
wedding, or a less popular day of the week.
- Have a fairly clear idea of what sort of
wedding you want.
Lots of bridesmaids/groomsmen/flower girls etc or few,
or none? Formal (the venue is a factor here) or
informal? Theme? How many guests, approximately. Don't
stress if you've not got this locked down. One of the
things I do, as your celebrant, is talk you through
the options, and how your choices will impact on the
- What role do you want your celebrant to play?
On the surface that may seem like an odd question
because of course your celebrant is responsible for
the ceremony and for ensuring that you are legally
married at the end of the ceremony, but your
ceremony doesn't have to be talking heads only, and
your celebrant doesn't have to dictate the content
of the ceremony (apart from the legal bits), and
your celebrant doesn't have to be the only one doing
all the talking. In short, your marriage ceremony
does not have to be "done to you ". I
can be, and I like to be, the facilitator who makes
sure you have the ceremony of your dreams, the
ceremony you thought you would not be able to
have! My maxim is No rules. No formula.
Life's too short for boring.
- Do you want to write your own vows / have input
I'll work with you - using my so easy
methodology you'll breeze through creating vows that
will speak to who you are.
- Who else would you like to participate in the
If you consider who among your friends and loved
ones you'd like to play a role in the ceremony, and
why, I will talk you through multiple ways to
include them without making the ceremony overly
long, or utterly predictable.
NOTE: When you book me as your celebrant I'll give you a
booklet I've written called Designing your Ceremony.
This is not
a collection of pre-written
sections. Rather it is a guide to thinking outside the
the Legal Requirements
- Gather the information you will need in order
to complete the Notice
of Intended Marriage
- Gather together the various documents you need
to show the celebrant (NB all of these documents
have to be originals, NOT JP or Notary certified
copies. Passports may be expired, but not
cancelled). If you can't find, or don't have, any
of these documents I can advise you how to get
them, but it takes time!
- Proof of date and place of birth (Birth
Certificate or Passport)
- Photo ID (this must be current, and official,
as your celebrant needs to be sure that the
people being married are who they say they are!)
- Proof of how previous marriage ended. If you
have been previously married, you will need to
show me a death certificate or a divorce
- Proof of change of name.
If you have changed your name via a previous
marriage, in order to link birth, divorce and
current name via official documentation, you
will need to show me that marriage certificate.
If you changed your name through a legal name
change and you do not have a birth certificate
issued in your new name, you will need to show
me your change of name document.