Reduce Your Wedding Stress!
(16/11/2018) | Categories:
| Wedding Planning |
Getting married is cause for
But planning a wedding can be incredibly stressful
if you let it be so - even for the most organised,
calm, and laid-back couple. But if you stick to your
guns about the type of wedding you want, and do the
following you will avoid a lot of the
- Remember why you are getting married.
Apart from the moment when you stand up in front of
friends and loved one and make the vows
that will create your legal marriage, together with
the promises that will be a blueprint for your
relationship, everything else is a party which, in
the long run, is your celebration of the event, not
the event itself.
- Invite people you really care about, and only
people you care about.
If you don't have an emotional connection, don't
send an invitation.
- Hire vendors you like - but don't hire them
only on whether you like them.
Your wedding vendors - celebrant, photographer,
videographer, cake-maker, stylists, hair and makeup
people, and so on - are the team that will ensure
that everything comes together and runs smoothly on
the day. You need to be able to trust them, and
liking them, and being able to be confident that
they are on your side, makes the whole experience so
much more pleasant. However, at the end of the day,
you need to choose vendors who are good at what they
do. So check out competence before you fall
- Make your own decisions, based on what
will bring the two of you joy
Weddings make people nervous about "making
mistakes". As a result, they become very vulnerable
to influence of others, particularly if the dreaded
What will people think? question
raises its ugly head. Remember that anything that
became a tradition just started with what was a good
idea at the time. But times change. If it doesn't
feel good, don't do it. Choosing to ditch a
tradition that means nothing to you won't make your
marriage invalid (Number 1 again).
- Go small on your wedding party.
There are so many roles good friends can play in
your wedding. They don't all have to be
dressed identically and standing up the front with
you. The bigger the bridal party, the more stress
(and the more expense for you, another source of
- Set a budget and stick to it.
Be shrewd, not cheap. Having a wedding is going
cost, but it shouldn't cost you so much that you are
stressed about how you are going to pay for it.
- Learn how to delegate.
Honestly, you don't have to personally do
everything (DIY some things if you wish, but not
everything). As long as you are making the
decisions, other people can carry them out.
Obviously, the vendors you hire as your wedding
team, will be doing just that - but others can help
as well. Want to display family wedding photos at
your reception? Delegate someone to round them up,
bring them to the venue, set them up, and pack them
up and take them away again. Ask willing helpers to
do the initial searching for suppliers of particular
items and bring you a short list to make the final
choice. And so on.
- Adopt the mantra It doesn't have to be
perfect to be wonderful.
Nothing is ever perfect. And the things
you stress over are things most people won't notice
anyway. What they do notice is how happy and relaxed
(or not) the two of you are on the day. How welcome
you made them feel. And how physically and
emotionally comfortable they are. The perfect
wedding is the happy wedding, not the perfect
flowers, food, or fancy decor.
NOTE: When you book me as your celebrant I'll give you a
booklet I've written called How to have a
glitch-free, stress-free wedding.
It has lots of
wise advice and handy tips!