Coffee Unity Ceremony

by Jennifer Cram (11/07/2019)  |  Categories: | Wedding Ceremony | Wedding Rituals |
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Two cups of coffee and a
                    cup of coffee beans
Wine ceremonies in which the couple drink from a shared glass of wine which may have been created by them pouring red and white wine into the glass, are very common in weddings.

But what if you don't drink, don't drink wine, or are coffee people?  Why not have a coffee unity ceremony instead.  Like wine, sharing coffee is a ritual of fellowship, hospitality, and the celebration of life. For such rituals, I craft appropriate words to suit the occasion, who you are, and the choices you, the couple, have made for this ritual.

There are a number of ways you can frame a coffee unity ceremony. And not all of them involve liquids - either hot or cold.

Coffee ritual using liquid coffee

The simplest ceremonial blending ceremony could be one of you pouring coffee (from a carafe or pot) into a mug or cup, and the other one pouring milk.  This could be done with cold coffee if you are holding your ceremony outdoors, or if you're in a venue, or having a very small ceremony just seated round a table in your favourite coffee shop, with hot coffee and even frothed milk. Or you could use coffee of two different origins.

Coffee ritual using beans

For an organic variation on the sand ceremony, choose coffee beans.

As in the sand ceremony, each of you pours beans into a container, to create a blend.  You could choose beans of the four different species (Robusta, Arabica, Liberica, or the rarer Asian-grown Excelsa). You could choose beans grown on different continents or different parts of the same continent (where coffee of the same species is grown determines the flavour). I'm a particular fan of Kenyan grown Arabica which has notes of orange blossom, so super-appropriate for weddings.

Including other members of the family in the ritual is also super-easy when using beans.

Jenny xxx Let's talk soon about how you
                      can have the best ceremony ever

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