Easy ways to Conquer Your
Fears about Your Vows
Cram Brisbane Marriage Celebrant
| Vows | Wedding Ceremony |
Marrying the love of
your life is going to be an extremely
emotional experience. In fact, and this is
no secret, the reason we all love weddings
(celebrants included) is precisely that. Seeing
the emotions on your faces - tears and all - is
what really makes a wedding for your guests.
It's what grabs the heart, lifts the spirit, and
makes everyone present silently go Awwww.
And often we join in and shed a tear or two as
well (celebrants included).
I call it the three big W's of a wedding -
Welling Up, Willing the Couple On, and Wishing
the Marriage Every Success.
But one of the biggest fears couples share with
me is about speaking in public, stuffing up
their vows, and ugly crying! It
is normal to feel a bit nervous at the same time
as feeling excited (the butterflies are the
same, by the way), but don’t worry, it will be
all right on the day.
vows to one another is not like standing on a
platform, facing an audience, and making a speech.
You will be looking into the eyes of the love of your
life. You’ll be making promises about how you are
going to behave towards this person for the rest of
your life. You’ll be prepared. You’ll know exactly
what you are going to say. And I will be leading you
through these promises (repeat after me) or, if you
choose, you’ll be reading them from a very
Insta-worthy card I'll make for you. You won’t be
making a speech.
With my help, we’ll make sure that your vows are
natural expressions of what you want to say. And,
because you are prepared and happy with your vows,
none of the following things that marrying couples
commonly worry about are going to spoil your day:
Common Fear #1: Going blank
Going blank isn't going to
happen. You don’t have to memorise and
remember your vows. You can repeat them after me, or
you can read them from lovely cards I'll make for
Common Fear #2: Freezing up
If you do need to pause for a bit, just breathe calmly
and quietly in through your nose and out through your
mouth. Practice this and use it both before ceremony
starts and during it. You’ll be amazed at how calm
Common Fear #3: Blushing,
Shaking, Dry Mouth
These are common physical responses to being nervous.
Even if they do happen you can do things that will
bring you to a calmer state where the symptoms start
to fade away. Ignore blushing and concentrate on what
you are promising to you best beloved. Drink lots of
water before the ceremony and try not to think about
it. Concentrate on what you’re doing (Marrying the
love of your life) instead of the fact that you’re
blushing, shaking, or have a dry mouth and the
symptoms will resolve themselves quite quickly.
Common Fear #4: Ugly Crying
There's nothing wrong with shedding a few (happy!)
tears on the big day. Trust me, while the chance of
you actually ugly-crying on your wedding day is very
very slight, it is a huge fear for many people. But
you can avoid
with some simple preparation.
Thanks for reading!