nerves kick in, the flowers go north! That's a
fact. And that means that your guests (and your
best beloved) will miss out seeing the detail of
you dress, and maybe part of your face.
out that there is a right way to hold a bouquet,
and an infinite number of other ways you can do
that. Just give a bunch of anything to a small
child and sit back and watch the (sometimes)
hilarious variations they come up with.
your bouquet the right way, and your photos will
The most popular style of bouquet is the round(is),
posy. It can be big or small, but the common feature
is that the stems are bound together to make one big
stem for you to hold. The instructions below are for
this style of bouquet.
Other styles of bouquet are the teardrop and the
sheath. A tear drop bouquet usually has a handle
concealed behind the flowers. Apart from holding the
handle, rather than the stems, the advice below
holds good. A sheath bouquet, aka as a long-stemmed
bouquet, is a whole other deal, but in many ways
simpler to deal with. It is long, so you hold it in
the crook of your arm in much the same way you would
cradle a baby. Flowers hanging over on the outside
of your elbow, stems lying down the length of your
inner forearm, with your hand controlling,
steadying, and hanging onto the stems.
The main thing you want to avoid is having your
flowers hide the detail on the bodice of your dress,
or part of you face. Keep your hand in the vicinity
of your belly button and the problem is solved.
Making sure that everyone in your wedding party who
is carrying a bouquet follows the same instruction
will go a long way to ensuring that there is
uniformity in your photos. Everyone carrying their
flowers on the same level makes for a polished
How to hold a posy
- Pick up your bouquet with your hand
somewhere between the middle of the stems and
just under the flowers. You will feel when it
is balanced in your hand. If someone is going
to be walking you down the aisle, you'll have
one hand free to put in the crook of their
arm. If you are walking down the aisle on your
own put the other hand over the top of the
hand that's holding the bouquet. If your
flowers have thick woody stems, the stem of
your bouquet might be quite thick and it may
be more comfortable to hold it with both hands
side by side, fingertip to fingertip.
- Check that the greens are falling naturally,
and, if you have floating ribbons attached,
make sure they are cascading over your hand
- Bring your hand to near your belly button,
either hovering over it, or between your hip
and your belly button.
- Angle the stems slightly to one side (this
keeps the ends away from your dress) and tilt
the bouquet slightly forward, so that everyone
sees the flowers and your your hand and the
stems are covered by the flowers, an
- Relax your arms slightly, so that there is a
bit of light showing between your body and
your arms - but not too much. It isn't the
- Relax your shoulders!
Walking up or down
stairs or steps
No one wants to do a prat-fall entrance to their
own wedding. If your entrance involves stairs or
steps. you will need a hand free to hold your
skirt or hang onto a banister In that case,
put your hand through the crook of the arm of your
escort, and hold your bouquet in the same hand,
leaving your other hand free to deal with your
dress or the banister.
Or, to create a sweet moment, when you get to
the top of the steps, hand your bouquet to your
escort to carry down the steps, and, in another
sweet moment, ceremoniously hand it back to you
when you are on level ground again.
Handing off and handing
At some point in the ceremony, you
will need to hand off your bouquet to someone
who will later need to hand it back to you. Have
a little rehearsal with that person to make sure
that they hand it to you the right way up.
When does this happen? While it is not unusual
for a bride to hand over her bouquet straight
away, I always you suggest that you keep it
until I ask you to pass it to you MOH or another
person. Having something to hold helps settle
the nerves, your bouquet is very much part of
your overall look, you've spent time and money
on it, and it is not until you are up the front
that your guests have an opportunity to really
appreciate it's beauty.
Passing your bouquet also gives you the
opportunity to use it to pay tribute to someone
special. To pause during the ceremony to walk
across and give your flowers to your mother,
your grandmother, or someone else special to
you, and whisper a few words of love and
appreciation. Don't worry, I will ask them to
lend it back to you to put on the signing table
and for photos.
The signing table
When you get to the signing table lay
your bouquet down so that it is in the photos of
you signing the register and certificates. It is
all the decoration the table needs, so it is
important that it is positioned for best effect.
Put it on the corner of the table (not directly
in front of you). Stems facing you, flowers
facing the guests and/or photographer. On a bit
of an angle, of course.
Formal photos before
and after the ceremony
For formal group photos, and couple portraits,
follow the formula. For fun couple photos your
photographer will have some suggestions. Go for
it. A bouquet held triumphantly high says so
At the reception
Have a vase with some water in it to put your
bouquet in. It can be part of the styling of the
bridal table or the cake table. And water will
keep the flowers fresh even on the hottest day.
Don't forget to have a facecloth handy to dry
the stems, so that when you pick it up again you
won't wet your dress.