While not being able to go out
whenever we feel like it, not being able to have a
romantic date at a favourite restaurant, is awful,
and the impact that this wretched COVID-19 virus
has had on virtually every part of our lives is a
pain in the proverbial, the upside is that it has
given us the gift of time to spend together if we
are lucky enough to be confined to home with the
love of our life. Despite the circumstances,
a little bit of creative planning can deliver tons
of romance and fun without breaking the bank.
Make a "Date Night In"
The idea is simple, independently of one another
come up with ideas for what to do for a date night
in, write it on a piece of paper, fold it, and pop
it into a jar. Your idea might be as simple as
cooking a particular meal together or watching a
specific DVD. The basic principle is that it is a
specific activity, not a generic one, so Watch
of Movie], rather than Watch
Of course, a movie on its own is not
much of a date, so add to it in the same way as
you would if going out to the cinema. Be creative!
And make it an ongoing project, so the jar can be
added to at any time, by either of you. Agree on
how often you will dip into the jar - daily,
weekly, whatever - and take it turn and turn about
to do a lucky dip selection. And then follow the
directions to have a great date night in.
Recreate your first date
It might take some ingenuity and creativity to
"recreate" your first date while self-isolating at
home, but that will just add to the fun.
Read The Five Love
Gary Chapman's book is available in print and
e-book from many sources, so it won't be hard to
get hold of a copy. You can also go to
www.5lovelanguages.com and do the couples quiz.
Get to understand one another's preferred love
language. And then do something nice for one
another using their preferred love language rather
than you own.
Do a Jigsaw Together
Jigsaws, we are told, are essential
activities! Be that as they may, doing a jigsaw
together can be made even more romantic if you
choose a scene that has a romantic connotation for
you. Somewhere you've visited together? Where you
are planning to honeymoon? Or a romantic couple
photo of the two of you. Yes, there are businesses
that will take a photo that you upload and turn it
into a jigsaw puzzle. A 1000 piece puzzle could
keep you busy for quite some time
Both serious, and not-so-serious. Hold up signs
with funny remarks on them, pose next to the
window or door, do captions that refer to how many
days, or comment about your postponed wedding (if
relevant), for example "Still Isolating, Still in
love", "See you at our wedding (date)", or take
the mickey out of the sort of signs couples hold
up in photo booths at weddings.
Borrow customs from
- If you loved Downton Abbey and
similar walks into previous, more gracious,
ages, borrow some customs. Turn off the
devices. Dress up for dinner. Set a formal
table with candles and flowers, or whatever
you can find to substitute for them. Use your
nicest things. Even if you're only having 2
- Reinvent the Sundowner. As British ex-pats
did in the colonies, gather on the verandah
for drinks and conversation at the end
of the day.
Prepare and share a
Even if you have to spread the picnic rug on the
lounge room floor! Of course, if you have a
balcony, or a garden, set up your picnic there.
Dress up for it.
If you are already
married, dig out your wedding vows
Turn down the lights, pour the wine, reminisce
about your wedding day, and then renew them by
reading them aloud to one another again.
If your wedding is
future-dated work on your vows
Work on your vows, together. Talk about your
relationship and how you plan to behave to one
another throughout your marriage. You may have to
do some negotiation, but that's fine.
Take turns to set up a
"Love You" scavenger hunt
It is simple as. Each clue starts "I love you
because ... " with the rest being the clue as to
where to find the next clue. Be creative about
what you use to write the clues on. Can labels,
cereal boxes, backs of old envelopes can all be
cut up and used.
Take turns reading to
A romantic novel, poetry, a favourite book from
childhood, or just the local newspaper. It is the
act of sharing that makes it special and romantic.
Choose and use a
personal handwashing song
is commonly suggested as an
easy way to time 20 seconds. But there are many
other more romantic songs that will work. Choose
one together. If it is one that you might use in
your wedding ceremony, or as a first dance piece,
so much the better.
Create a virtual mood
board for your wedding
You're not going to be able to go out and pick up
samples, for example, so troll the internet, grab
and save relevant images, and put them together,
either as print-outs stuck to an actual board, or
as a document on your device.
Style your bedroom
Using only stuff you already have! Extra points if
you move into your bedroom things that have
If you have a workshop
and some tools
Get serious about creating things for your
postponed/planned wedding. If you can get hold of
some used pallets, it is amazing what you can
create with them. And there is no shortage of
ideas and directions on the internet.
Make a wedding legal
Gather together the documents you need to show
- Proof of birth - either your birth
certificate or your passport
- Photo ID - Passport, or Driver Licence/Proof
of Age Card (you might want to keep your
Driver Licence in your wallet!)
- Proof of Being Free to Marry - Divorce
Certificate or Death Certificate of Previous
Download the Notice
of Intended Marriage
and fill it in
together. Put it in the folder until you're ready
to lodge your Notice.
Lodging your Notice means giving
your chosen celebrant your completed and witnessed
Notice. You must sign it Celebrant, or one
of the qualified witnesses listed on page 4
The clock doesn't start ticking on the required
full calendar month before you can get married
until your celebrant accepts the form.
Create a #Hashtag
Couples commonly create a wedding hashtag that
guests can use to help them gather together photos
and social media posts about their wedding. There
are a number of free online hashtag generators
is one of them. If you are planning your wedding
do that. But even if you are not, why not create a
#CoupleSelfIsolating personal #hashtag?
Express your love
Write, text, or video love letters to one another.
It doesn't matter whether you write or speak, the
important thing is to send a lohow_to_write_love_letter.htm
letter that can be read, or listened to again and
again. Here's a guide to writing a
Please share your ideas
I'd love to hear how you are upping the romance
while in lockdown. Please contact me
share your ideas and I'll add them to this blog
(with attribution, of course)