| Wedding Ceremony |
I don't know which mean-spirited
person coined the saying Men don't make passes
at girls who wear glasses
but, not only is it
something I've been hearing for most of my life, it
seems it is yet another negative that perfectly
lovely shortsighted women take to heart when
deciding what to wear on their wedding day.
It doesn't seem fair that weddings seem to have been
designated an eyeglasses-free-zone for brides while
grooms get to rock their glasses with impunity.
Brides are almost invariably "advised" by friends,
family, and other interested bystanders to ditch the
glasses and opt for contacts on the day. That makes
me sad. After all, what better excuse to splurge on
new luxury designer frames can there be than
marrying the person who fell in love with
Speaking as a glasses-wearing celebrant who for
decades has colour-coordinated her outfits with her
glasses, I'm all for glasses being part of your
signature style. Your wedding day is a very special
opportunity to showcase your personal style and
dress to show off the best version of yourself.
Whether you regard the glasses you wear on your
wedding day as part of your ensemble, as a
personality-reflecting accessory, or as face jewellery
you too can rock your glasses. They are part of the
your whole wedding day look. Wearing glasses will
have you looking, and feeling, like you.
My wonderful optometrist (Kylie Zahner at Kenmore
) has a very simple
business mantra: It's in our interests that you
look and feel great in your new glasses - people
will want to go where you went"
. I tapped into
her expertise and customer-focus for pro-tips,
including the pros and cons of glasses versus
Kylie's Pro-Tip: If you've always worn
glasses and are more comfortable in glasses,
getting a new pair for your wedding day may be
better than getting contacts for the first time.
The wedding dress industry has very effectively
educated us all that, to make sure your dress is the
dress of your dreams and that it fits you perfectly,
you need to start shopping early. Same deal with
glasses. Your glasses need to suit you, to fit you
perfectly, and be comfortable enough to wear for
your whole wedding day without leaving red marks on
your nose. They also need to give you perfect vision
correction. But unlike a dress, a stitch here and
there or safety pin or two at the last minute is not
going to effect a needed last-minute adjustment.
Kylie's Pro-Tip: Whether you are going
for new glasses or new contacts, get them at least
3 months prior to your wedding to make sure you
are very well adapted to them by the time the
cameras are out
The wedding dress industry also has very effectively
educated us that, when you go wedding dress shopping
you need to have with you shoes with the same height
heel you'll be wearing on the day, your foundation
garments (that's modesty speak for your bra and
whatever you'll be wearing on your bottom half),
together with jewellery and hairpiece/veil if you
already have those or are wearing an heirloom.
Though they never mention it, you need to take your
The tricky bit to this is that you can't be sure
until you see everything together what will work and
what won't. Everyone expects that certain types of
veils and glasses might not work together. But what
you might be surprised by is that some dresses just
don't work with some frames. If both your dress
bodice and your glasses are blinged to the nines,
the whole effect will be way too busy. The whole
exercise is complicated by something that we've all
learned from watching Say Yes to the Dress
and similar TV programs. It is not unusual that The
turns out to be nothing like the picture
you had in your head when you started shopping.
Kylie's Pro-Tip: We take credit card
details and let you take frames home to try on.
Given that the wedding dress industry advises
shopping for a dress a minimum of six months ahead,
this means you could do the initial shopping for
your dress and veil with the frames before you
commit to them and have them made up in your
prescription! You also need to check that there is
nothing on the frames that will catch on a veil.
Sharp corners and bling can create pulls or snags.
If the frames prove incompatible with a veil part of
the decision-making process is to pick which one
will take precedence. Do you change the frames, opt
for rimless glasses, decide to go forgo wearing a
traditional veil altogether, wear a birdcage veil,
or choose a long veil attached to your hairdo at the
Get expert help
One thing I can guarantee is that there is a
multitude of options. Whatever your price point you
will find yourself spoiled for choice of shapes,
colours (including clear and skin-toned), materials,
and styles, so it would be a good idea to find
yourself a professional optometrist who has a wide
selection of frames to choose from and staff who are
trained and will work with you to select a frame
that fits perfectly and looks fabulous on you
but also which lens type and options will be your
Kylie's Pro-Tip: A frame may feel OK in
the shop for a few minutes but trained
staff are able to predict which frames are going
to still feel comfortable after 16 hours.
The perfect frame for you may not be the frame
that you admire on someone else. When something
suits someone else, we love it on them. Then we
try it on and it is not us. One of the reasons
expert help is the best way to guarantee a good
outcome both in fit and style is that we are so
used to seeing ourselves either without glasses,
or with our current style, that it can be hard to
make a judgement about a new look.
Its not just about the
Speaking from experience, in addition to correcting
your vision so you can see perfectly, there are four
things you should expect from your lenses on your
wedding day (or any other day for that matter)
- They should have anti-glare coating
Reflections from the sun, overhead lighting, or
camera flashes can ruin a gorgeous photo and
obscure your eyes when talking to people.
Anti-glare coating is 100% worth the extra
- They should give your eyes 100% UV
UV protection doesn't mean sunglasses only. It
can be in clear lenses, too. It is really
important for eye health.
Kylie's Pro-Tip: Sunglasses in
the car on the way to your wedding will
prevent watery eyes and sneezing. We can't
have running mascara as we get out of the car!
- They should have really high clarity value
Did you know that, like diamonds, the higher the
clarity value the clearer a lens is to look
Kylie's Pro-Tip: While it cost
more to get better clarity, most people are
very happy with the benefits and better
- They should to be as thin as possible
That's for aesthetic value. But hey, on your
wedding day, aesthetics are super important.
Kylie's Pro-Tip: Lenses come in
different thicknesses. Thinner lenses are
lighter, flatter, and have a larger sweet
spot. Even if you have a higher prescription
we can make your lenses thinner.
Bring the frames to your
hair and makeup trial
You don't have to compromise the dazzle factor just
because you're wearing glasses. I'm told by makeup
experts that, when they have a glasses-wearing bride
they pay extra attention to her complexion and
usually go for a dewy look that minimises any
shadows under the eyes. They also match
eyeliner to strength of prescription. So whether
your lenses make your eyes look bigger or smaller
will decide whether they use eyeliner on both lids,
or only the top lid. And they also match eyeliner to
the frames. Thin for thin, thick for thick. Choice
of eyeshadow and lipstick is also influenced by your
glasses. If you are going with false eyelashes you
don't want them sweeping up and down the inside of
your lenses. so the style and fit of your glasses
needs to be taken into account. And don't forget
your eyebrows. Shape is important. As is having them
nicely tamed. While you might think your glasses
will hide your brows, they do exactly the opposite-
they draw attention to them.
Glasses usual pair best with soft hairstyles, unless
you really do go for the stereotypical old teacher
look. Your hairdresser will be your best advisor as
to what will work with your hair length, hair type,
dress, veil, and glasses.
Talk to your photographer
Have some trial photos taken beforehand so your
photographer can familiarise themselves with how
your glasses work on your face. On your wedding day
do take your glasses off for some photos. Not that
you won't be looking gorgeous in your glasses on the
day, but a few photos that really show off your
fabulous makeup and gorgeous eyes will be a
Earrings or not
Another delightful (not) bit of twaddle is that
earrings and glasses don't go together. Of course
they do. You just have to make sure they don't fight
with one another for attention.
What about the kiss?
Again, as a long-time glasses-wearing
celebrant (and person), I shake my head when I come
across suggestions that a good reason not to wear
glasses on your wedding day is that they may get in
the way of your first kiss. Come on. You've kissed
more than once with your glasses on. You've got it.
You know how to do this. On the other hand, when it
comes to the time for your first kiss, both of your
hands will be free. Nothing in the world to stop you
whipping off your glasses just before the two of you
go for it. Having your glasses dangling from one
hand round your groom's neck will add an extra touch
of intimacy and make for a very romantic photograph.
Some bits and pieces of
Last Pro-tip from Kylie
- Pack some lens cleaning wipes to keep your
glasses sparkling clean throughout the day. Get
your groom to slip some into his pocket. They
come individually wrapped, so they won't make
his pocket bulge.
- Bring a backup pair of glasses with you.
Accidents do happen.
- If you decide to wear contacts after all,
definitely bring a backup pair of glasses in
case your contacts dry out, your eyes start to
itch, or just become uncomfortable. Rather than
ending up with red and puffy eyes, not a good
look, a quick switch to glasses will save the
Pro-tip from Kylie: If you do want to
wear contacts, daily disposables are best
wherever possible as you’re putting a fresh
lens in every day. We have access to the
latest materials that perform better in dry
eyes so there is less drying out and better
comfort and vision.
- If you are planning to wear contacts, take
your glasses to your makeup trial anyway and
discuss with your MUA the possibility that you
might need to switch so they can take that into
account when planning your eye makeup
: I'd be looking
at it all at once - dress, veil, glasses - as
it 's the whole picture thing
Kylie's Website is https://kenmoreoptometrist.com.au
And her Facebook page is: https://facebook.com/kenmoreoptometrist
And a last tip from glasses-wearing me.
all about balance. So, if the frames you fell in
love with are a tad heavy in relation to the dress
you fell in love with, balance them with one other
statement piece, like a bolder hair accessory, a
standout pair of shoes, a bright clutch or wrap, or
The bottom line is, as long as you stay true to
your personal style, as long as you feel
comfortable, your focus will be on marrying the
love of your life surrounded by your friends and
loved ones. You will be radiantly rocking your
glasses every second of a fantastically happy day.