20 things you can do in a
backyard wedding (that you most likely
won’t be able to do anywhere else)
(15/08/2019) | Categories:
| Wedding Planning |
When you decide to have your
wedding in your own backyard you have complete control
over every aspect of the day in a way you don’t if you
marry in a wedding venue, or even in a public park.
Other than noise restrictions, and possibly issues
with parking, which apply in general in the area,
regardless of whether you’ve got an event planned or
not, you can do what you want, without having to worry
about venue policies, council regulations, and
Most, if not all other places you could hold your
wedding are constrained by legal requirements or
commercial realities. Hosting your own wedding, in
your own backyard, will not only save you money, it
will give you opportunities to make the occasion
unique because you will be able to include in the
ceremony rituals enhanced by the freedom you have, and
will be able to personalise every aspect of the day.
So you will be able to:
- Hold your wedding on the day of your choice,
however popular a day that might be for weddings,
because you are not competing with other couples
to book the same venue
- Start and end at when you like. Most bookings
for parks and venues are for a specific amount of
time, with a hard-and-fast end time by which time
you must have vacated the premises and removed all
- Have an infinite choice of style, theme, and
catering, including food made at home. Many venues
won’t allow anything on the premises that isn’t
made in a commercial kitchen, so you can’t have
your auntie make your wedding cake, or give
everyone homemade shortbread as a favour.
- Have free choice of vendors to supply goods and
services for your wedding, rather than being
required to choose from a short list of approved
- Include your fur babies, all of them, not just
dogs, in both ceremony and celebration afterwards.
And if your pet has feathers or scales, them too.
- Create a permanent deck, paved area, or concrete
slab, or lay turf to delineate the ceremony space
– and make it just the right size to fit your
bridal party. Google pebble mosaic persian
carpet and pebble mosaics
for the garden for some wonderful ideas.
- Build a permanent arch just where you want it.
If you do this well ahead of time, by the time of
your wedding your choice of climbing plant will
add a beautiful, natural, and long-lasting element
that you can continue to enjoy. Stephanotis, a
traditional bridal flower, star jasmine,
mandevilla, and clematis are all fast growers as
is ivy. And ivy has added meaning as a symbol of
marital fidelity. A passionfruit vine works well
too, as does bougainvillea, which comes in a
multitude of colours. Choose your creeper with the
position (shade/sun) and the season of your
wedding in mind.
- Create a backdrop for the ceremony any way you
want – a built structure or screen, a waterwall or
other water feature, a mass planting, or attach
decorations to your fence. And then use it
after the ceremony for a DIY photo booth for your
- Hang things, including ribbons, lights, candle
lamps, etc from trees, you could even carve your
initials and the date in the trunk of one of your
- Have open flames – candles, tiki torches, a fire
pit, all things often forbidden by venues because
of the restrictions placed on their insurance
policies. But you’ll need to make sure that there
is no total fire ban on the day.
- Use a strategically placed garden bench for
seating to sign the marriage register and
certificates. Afterwards you can add a plaque.
- Put up a marquee or shade cloth
- Use whatever chairs and tables you wish.
- Include an oathing stone in your ceremony by
saying your vows over a large ornamental rock
that’s a permanent fixture, placed where you
choose– and engrave, carve, or attach a plaque
commemorating the occasion. You can include your
vows (if they aren’t too long – a good reason for
keeping them short and both saying the same vow)
as well as your names and the dates.
- Include a tree
planting ritual in your ceremony, for
real, planting it in the ground where it is going
to stay rather than having to plant it in a pot.
Or plant almost anything. Rosemary, with its long
history as a wedding herb, and association with
memories and with loyalty, is a perfect
choice. As would be a rose bush. Roses are a
universal symbol of love, and there are so many
varieties with evocative names that you are sure
to find one that fits just perfectly.
- Attach love-locks to whatever you wish
- Allow your guests to throw confetti, rose petals
or rice, or anything else for that matter without
risking being fined. One word of caution, though,
avoid bird seed. It will germinate and you’ll have
a weed problem!
- Have the ceremony in the middle of the party,
rather than before it. So greet everyone, serve
some drinks and nibbles and mingle. Then have the
ceremony. And then serve dinner.
- Leave cleaning up to the next day, with no
deadline for removal of decorations, furniture,
- Revisit the site where you said I Do any
time you like. Imagine having coffee or an evening
cocktail sitting on the bench where you sat to
sign your marriage papers.
Do contact me if you can think of more possibilities.
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