20 things you can do in a
(that you most likely
won’t be able to do anywhere else)
Cram - Brisbane Marriage Celebrant
| Wedding Planning |
When you decide to have your wedding
in your own backyard you have complete control over
every aspect of the day in a way you don’t if you
marry in a wedding venue, or even in a public park.
Other than noise restrictions, and possibly issues
with parking, which apply in general in the area,
regardless of whether you’ve got an event planned or
not, you can do what you want, without having to worry
about venue policies, council regulations, and
Most, if not all other places you could hold your
wedding are constrained by legal requirements or
commercial realities. Hosting your own wedding, in
your own backyard, will not only save you money, it
will give you opportunities to make the occasion
unique because you will be able to include in the
ceremony rituals enhanced by the freedom you have, and
will be able to personalise every aspect of the day.
So you will be able to:
- Hold your wedding on the day of your choice,
however popular a day that might be for weddings,
because you are not competing with other couples
to book the same venue
- Start and end at when you like. Most
bookings for parks and venues are for a specific
amount of time, with a hard-and-fast end time by
which time you must have vacated the premises and
- Have an infinite choice of style, theme, and
catering, including food made at home. Many
venues won’t allow anything on the premises that
isn’t made in a commercial kitchen, so you can’t
have your auntie make your wedding cake, or give
everyone homemade shortbread as a favour.
- Have free choice of vendors to supply
goods and services for your wedding, rather than
being required to choose from a short list of
- Include your fur babies, all of them, not
just dogs, cats, and
other pets too, in both ceremony and celebration
afterwards. And if your pet has feathers or
scales, them too.
- Create a permanent deck, paved area, or
concrete slab, or lay turf to delineate the
ceremony space – and make it just the right
size to fit your bridal party. Google pebble
mosaic persian carpet and pebble
mosaics for the garden for some wonderful
- Build a permanent arch just where you
want it. If you do this well ahead of time, giving
your choice of climbing plant time to grow, it
will add a beautiful, natural, and long-lasting
element that you can continue to enjoy.
Stephanotis, a traditional bridal flower, star
jasmine, mandevilla, and clematis are all fast
growers as is ivy. Ivy has added meaning as a
symbol of marital fidelity. A passionfruit vine
works well too, as does bougainvillea, which comes
in a multitude of colours. Choose your creeper
with the position (shade/sun) and the season of
your wedding in mind.
- Create a backdrop for the ceremony any way
you want – a built structure or screen, a
waterwall or other water feature, a mass planting,
or attach decorations to your fence. And
then use it after the ceremony for a DIY photo
booth for your guests
- Hang things, including ribbons, lights,
candle lamps, etc from trees, you could even carve
your initials and the date in the trunk of one of
- Have open flames – candles, tiki torches,
a fire pit, all things often forbidden by venues
because of the restrictions placed on their
insurance policies. But you’ll need to make sure
that there is no total fire ban on the day.
- Use a strategically placed garden bench
for seating to sign the marriage register and
certificates. Afterwards you can add a plaque.
- Put up a marquee or shade cloth
- Use whatever chairs and tables you wish.
- Include an oathing
stone in your ceremony by saying
your vows over a large ornamental rock
that’s a permanent fixture, placed where you
choose– and engrave, carve, or attach a plaque
commemorating the occasion. You can include your
vows (if they aren’t too long – a good reason for
keeping them short and both saying the same vow)
as well as your names and the dates.
- Include a tree planting
ritual in your ceremony, for real,
planting it in the ground where it is going to
stay rather than having to plant it in a pot. Or
plant almost anything. Rosemary, with its long
history as a wedding herb, and association with
memories and with loyalty, is a perfect
choice. As would be a rose bush. Roses are a
universal symbol of love, and there are so many
varieties with evocative names that you are sure
to find one that fits just perfectly.
- Attach love-locks
to whatever you wish
- Allow your guests to throw confetti, rose
petals or rice, or anything else for
that matter without risking being fined. One word
of caution, though, avoid bird seed. It will
germinate and you’ll have a weed problem!
- Have the ceremony in the middle of the party,
rather than before it. So greet everyone, serve
some drinks and nibbles and mingle. Then have the
ceremony. And then serve dinner.
- Leave cleaning up to the next day, with
no deadline for removal of decorations, furniture,
- Revisit the site where you said I
Do any time you like. Imagine
having coffee or an evening cocktail sitting on
the bench where you sat to sign your marriage
Do contact me if you can think of more possibilities.
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